OK, folks...need some input here. My wife and I have been married 10 years and have had a pretty good track record overall, but I struggle with an issue between us. Thanks to the combinitation of a very strict upbringing and nursing school, my wife has a number of "hang ups" with physical contact. Our idea of a "wet, sloppy kiss" is a quick peck...no more...ever. Anything even close to a "french kiss" is forbidden... not to mention any other practices involving the mouth and any other body part. When it comes time to be intimate, she despises any forplay of any kind...I've joked that our forplay consists of me reaching for the little bottle of lubricant. Afterwards she just wants to be left alone...no cuddles, no talking. <p>Her answer to me when I ask her to think about being just a little more open minded is "I'm just wired backward and I can't change". I'm a hopeless romantic that wishes for long slow quiet evenings spent being wrapt up in each other, but that just not her style.<p>Any suggestions? [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img]

Most men I know will not stand for this long term, and somewhere down the line, another woman will seriously whet the appetite. I'd draw a line and let your needs be known, also, it could be hormonal in nature? Pheromones might help..those are always fun to try.<p>Laborwife

Wow... I'm not sure how to handle that reply. I've been trying to convince myself that it's all been a problem of my desires being unreasonable. Am I being out of line for wishing that my wife could relax enough for me to perform for her? Sheeesh. Still confused [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

bongo,<p>Is there some type of sexual abuse in her background? Was she always this way?<p>I think some therapy is in order here. There is some psychological reason, IMO, why she is with-
holding herself from intimacy. Has she seen a counselor?