thankyou for encouragement, it helps. we did end up making love last night, which was very nice. getting ready to work out now. we'll see what the day brings.

Hey, might as well enjoy what you can, right? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

wondering why one person voted to give up.things change hour to hour. at dinner, it was first time he started a fight in frint of kids, asking them if it ismportant to be here for open house and homecoming. i said it is, he thinks not.i can't believe how he makes his decisions. he planning to go see her again, spending money that we need to be saving for college next year, he just doesn't get it he is wrapped up in a fantasy with her. i loke reading suggestions, it helps. thanks

I'm sorry for not posting in a couple of days, matilda.

I've been having some pretty trying times myself, the last couple of days.

Please don't be discouraged.

Please consider posting a new thread on the Emotional Needs board. You will get a much better response, from others who have been in your situation. You need thier help.

I'm afraid that if you confine your correspondence to the Negotiating board, you may become discouraged with the meager response.

Please give it a try, okay?

BW

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i'm trying to move topic to emotional needs without having to rewrite everything. thanks

braveheartanew, can you please move my topic to emotional needs? thankyou

Matilda,

What you are going to need to do is this:

Go to the MB Discussion board.

Click on "Emotional Needs"

Click "post new topic"

Try to include all important facts in your post. If typing on the computer is not something that you like to do, you might find it easier to write down what you want to say before you get on the computer. That way, you can read over the information and make changes if you need to before you have to deal with typing. Then log on to MB, and post your new topic.

Remember to respond to any new posts on that same "Emotional Needs" thread, not the old one at "negotiating".

Hope this helps!

BW

My first time to post. I too am holding on to my M. My dh is (I believe) in MLC. He was 43 when this all started (March '01). He announced he was bitter towards me. He joined the gym, shaved off his mustache, fixed his '82 'stang to run over 150 mph. Works all the time & now: He's building bulk, still no mustache, gets speeding tickets, joined a University on-line to get a BS degree in management. Adores a woman at work who is Chinese with a brain (no offense to the Chinese) & her ideas. She is married with 2 girls and goes to the same gym (longer than he has). He claims it's not physical... to me it's still an affair. He is demanding a divorce but, found out not financially possible. And HATES me & is discussed being around me, (I make him ill just being in the same room with him)& say's "Your hiding behind God!" & gets upset - cause I won't go down without a fight. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I am lonely, missing the times you use to share.
I hate the sin he is in. He is living like a single man now for the past two months. I am so lonely... I gather he isn't lonely. I don't even care to have all the facts on his doings. That's satans way of getting the better of the work God is doing in me. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

what is up with men when they hit mid life?i hear more and more about this crisis stuff. i feel everyone needs to hang in there. the only reason for divorcing is physical, or drug abuse which can harm family. hang in there

Mid- life stinks! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

is mid life different for women, haven't had any crises of my own. my husband has always worked out, he is bald,drives an suv, but seeks other w. i realize i have done alot of lb, but am willing to make up for that. once he reads his needs her needs, alot will be explained to him, which he doesn't see now. today was a good day, if i don't talk about ow, we are fine. if i don't talk about a divorce, we are fine. some times i can't help myself, i'm trying .

For me,
My dh talks how divorce is inevitable...
My dh moved out 3 months ago. When he talks on the phone... he hits me with divorce. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Got to keep focus: God is in control. He is directing my dh and my dh has no clue that God's directing him - for the goal of God's will - will be done. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />