I just found this website tonight, after a huge blowout with my live-in boyfriend, and I feel like it's my saving grace.<p>This might be fairly long so bear with me please.<p>My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years, and it's really been rocky for the last 9 months. That's when I found out about his constant lying. (1)I found out that when we first started dating he had a girlfriend and was still sleeping with her. He decided to break up with her 2 weeks after we started dating. (2)Then I found out that he was still talking to his long-time previous relationship girlfriend and had neglected to tell her he had a girlfriend. By this time we had been together for 6 months or so. (3) Then I found out that he was e-mailing other women he would meet on ICQ, and again neglecting to tell them he had a girlfriend. And also telling them he was able to fly anywhere in the US anytime (he's an airline pilot). (4) Then I found out that on overnight trips last summer he and whoever he was flying with would meet up with these girls and go to clubs. He would apparently tell me that he was really tired those nights and skip out on long phone calls with me so he could go out and party. I, of course would feel sorry for him and think about how hard he works. Stupid me! (5)And now just recently he lied about reading a magazine I don't like. He used to read Playboy (he finally stopped for me), now he's into Maxim. I don't like these types of magazines because they'll disrespectful of women and have scantilly clad women everywhere in them. He claimed he would stop for me, but low and behold he lied again.<p>He doesn't seem to understand how deeply all of these lies hurt me. I feel as though he has actualy cheated on me. He assured me that he never cheated on me, during a little truth session we had. I feel as though I'll never get over these lies. I find myself rifling through his things always looking for something. And that's not me! I hate I'm becoming this wanna-be control freak! I alomost feel as though he had all the control for so long and I didn't even know it, now I want some of it back. Am I crazy for feeling like this?<p>Before all these lies came out, I thoughtg everything was wonderful between us, now I feel as though the curtain was yanked down and I can see the puppet strings. I hate the fact I was so naive. I put him on a pedistal, and now he's fallen off and he's just like everyone else. Which is not what I want in a man. Help!!!<p>Please someone respond soon!!
Conflictedtexan
