</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">With all the scary reports about cohabitation, I want to make sure I do this relationship right, because I do want it to lead to a healthy marriage (not that we're engaged). Right now I stay at his house most nights, but I keep only a few toiletries and a change of clothes there. We go out once or twice a week; the rest of the time we cook together and clean up together. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, first off, all the scary reports
aren't that bad. Well, that's not true. Many of the
reports are bad, but if you actually look at the
statistics it isn't as bad as many would lead you to believe. The link I gave you has information at the bottom about
how they collected thier data, which I have yet to find at any other site about this issue.
It sounds like you are practically living together now, for all intents and purposes. My W and I lived together for almost 5 years before we got married. Think about this: two people can really live almost as cheaply as one. Instead of maintaining two households, and paying rent on two places, how much better would things be if you did live together?
Having said that, make sure the two of you sit down up front, before making the plunge, and agree on who, and how the finances will be handled. (joint account, seperate accounts with everything split down the middle, separate accounts
and a joint account, whatever)
I can tell you, from my experience, almost all my friends I know who are still married lived together first. The only ones I know who got married and didn't live together first are still married, but miserable, and are supremely incompatible. You gotta go with your own thoughts and feelings though, no one knows you like you.
Cheers, and good luck,
FNA