Bill, Big deal! Shall we shake on it.

Hey, has anyone heard from Nick/Cooker?

Sorry to have done this - in a way. But I wanted to see how many posts the Mega-Thread has.

Well since all the oldies are coming out of the woodwork, I guess I may as well say hello!!!!!!!!!

Hang in!!

Bob

<small>[ November 03, 2003, 07:53 PM: Message edited by: RWD ]</small>

Hi, friend. I saw you on EN and was surprised. You and Mel ok? What's up?

Hey Bob!

Wow! It's been a long time since I've seen you here! How've you been?

Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You're lurking, too. Oh my goodness. You remember the kingdom where you are the queen? Well, it's still up and running and is longer than this thread - but this would be the coolest one yet. Even if the other one is my kingdom. this one has the biggest variety of posters.

However, anyone who wishes to have a part in the kingdom may come on over!!! Anytime!!!!

Things are going pretty well with Mel and I, we've been struggling to find time together. Both of our kids always seem to have something going on and our x's aren't always the most cooperative.

I filed for an increase in child support in early spring based on fact x is and has been working full time since mid 99 and I was receiving CS based on her part-time wages in 98.

Any since her subsequent divorce from the om, she has been spending more time with the kids over the past year. So she got lawyer to have the child support increase over turned.

I went to my lawyer and he looked at our wages and asked if kids were with the x 50% of the time and I said, on paper yes. He said that's all that matters and since I make more money than she does, I may have to pay her CS. I couldn't believe it. I was pissed, but was really stuck.

My lawyer said make an offer and see if she excepts, so I said I would accept a 50% reduction in CS from the original amount which matches what I pay for their medical insurance. She also agreed to split other bills 50-50.

The only problem was that her lawyer never did anything and mine started too late and we ended up in court last week. We waited about an hour for the judge and when we went in my lawyer said we have an agreement, and the judge said, well sign out and get out of here!

So now I suppose I'll have to pay some court costs as well as my attorney.

My kids are doing pretty well. My d, a high school sophmore was nominated to the homecoming court this year. She didn't make it. She is currently trying out for basketball, but says she may not bother as the coach said they will ahve 4 hr practices and she is concerned about her grades. She is a staright A student.

My son had an interesting year, he broke his arm right before school started playing football. HE really did well with it though. They didn't cast iit, it was in a sling and swath for about a month. The Dr said he could take it off after that. HE just made the 7th grade basketball team and has his first game tonite after school. HE isn't a starter and isn't too happy about it.

Other than that!

Hope all is well with you guys!

Hi Bob,

You life with your kids sounds almost as hectic as mine! LOL

Things are great here. My new hubby and I get along great, and for the most part, so do his kids and mine.

My oldest son is adjusting better to having a step-dad. His fooball season just ended with his team winning their Superbowl. He was nominated for the Lineman of the Year award. Didn't win it but was excited to just be honored.

My middle son played football also. His team didn't make it to their Superbowl but he was asked to be a manager for his older brothers team.

My youngest son played football and was the 2nd Superbowl Champ in the family. Talk about a proud mom! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

The only thing that could be improved would be the older 2's grades. But we're working on that. They know if they don't keep their grades up, they can't play sports.

My ex does nothing with them anymore. And only pays his child support when he feels like it. I don't let it bother me too much since he still is an addict and alcoholic. Plus he married the woman who was the OW. They make a great couple! LOL

But basically, life is good!

Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Glad to hear both of you are doing well. Nice trip down memory lane.

Hey Mitzi,
got your email the other day, your boys have got soooooo BIG.
thought I would come here and ask for advice on what I told you about the other day, so just to keep everyone on the same page I'll give the short story here real quick...
XH is married to the OW now, and I pretty much ignore him except when he wants to "play dad" and come see the kids every 6 or 8 months. but thats not it, I have been dating a man in the army for 3 years(yes mitzi I know...when will I ever learn). and he spends every minute with me when he was not in korea or now he is in baghdad, we talk every week and write all the time. well here is where the trouble is...I wanted to find out more about a fire fight he had said he was in and so I did a search for news on him on the internet using his comapny as the key word. and low and behold what does the internet pull up but a page about his wife and 2 little girls missing him very much and hope he returns home soon(one of which is 3) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> he seen what my X's cheating did to me and knows how I feel about females who go out with married men, and I had no idea...he never once said anything to me about a wife girlfriend or kids, the only thing we talked aboutin reguards to kids was that he wanted to have alot and if I couldnt after dealing with recent health issues we would adopt. he has went so far as telling my son that when he gets back form baghdad we would be able to be together for good, and its going to be very hard on my son cause he thinks more of this man than he does his own father (which breaks my heart).he has lied to me my family and all my friends. now...what should I do..I have a letter I wrote telling him I know and shame on him and all that jazz,and have the print out of the photo of him with his family to add to it and telling him never to contact me again. but should I send it OR wait till he calls so I can confront him almost in person and tell him what I think of him and what he has done to me by making me the OW that I hate so much??? I have even went so far as to think about sending him a box of exlax laced cookies..but reveange is not really my cup of tea...so how do ya'll think I should handle it.

ok so it wasnt that short but ya'll get the jist of it.

I will come check in on ya in a day or so mitzi..take care honey..luvs ya.
Lesa

<small>[ November 09, 2003, 12:30 PM: Message edited by: LMS ]</small>

Hey Lesa,

Glad you stopped by here.

I think you ought to start a new thread about your situation. I don't think this thread gets looked at a whole lot anymore. Maybe someone else will be able to give you more advice to think about.

Personally, I think you should tell him on the phone and send the no contact letter. It really is a shame that he's done this. Not much of a man in my book. Let me know what you decide!!

Love ya,
Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

hey girl...still havent made up my mind yet, and I normaly get a call monday nights before I leave for class, I dont think I'll pick up this week though I have a major test and I relly dont need that crap running around in my head, you know what is really sad about all of this is, I know how to expect to feel and how to deal with it. I know for one that even if he was not married and if it was him not bein honest about having kids i still would want nothing to do with him. he lied to me, and like I have told him one lie would end it for good and I would never speek to him again, with the x it wasnt so firm when I said that, it was well maybe he lied to me because...no no more of that he lied plain and simple, no matter what it was about it wouldnt matter, you know what I'm sayin here?
well I have to go study now that I have my paper done..talk to ya later sweetie.
Lesa

<small>[ November 09, 2003, 10:59 PM: Message edited by: LMS ]</small>