Querida,<p>this is a tough one; it's got so many possibilities. His age, past relationships, etc. Having done my share of dating, prior to getting married at age 30, the comittment thing was never a real problem, for me that is. I was always very open in my relationships, and if i detected someone expected more, i made sure to talk about it & work it out. Some times this was the beginning of the end of those relationships, but since I wasn't ready to commit any further, i felt that i was being fair in stating my lack of committing any further. Is this fair ? Of course not to the one wanting more. By the way, i was also in some relationships where I wanted more & she didn't. <p>I guess it's got so many variables that you shouldn't assume it's your fault. BOTH people have to be ready. <p>Maybe he felt that since you wanted more and he had no intentions of furthering the relationship, he slowly became distant. <p>Regarding the continuation of sex, I have to think he is a bit of a slime ball for that ! That's extremely disrespectful. I'm glad (hope) you told him to take a hike. <p>By the way, someone telling you the love you & your the best thing can ONLY be proven by their actions towards you. He's either lying for the sex or he doesn't know what real love means. (the lack of keepying in touch for a period of time tells me that it may be both.)<p>I hope you can go forward & accept that some folks just are not ready to commit. <p>For the record, I want to say that i don't envy women when it comes to this stage of a relationship. It's definately tough !! <p>hang in there & sorry that there's no one correct answer to this !!<p>nick