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I was curious as to how many women change back to their maiden names following a divorce?<P>If you have, why did you make this change?<BR>
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I am going back to my maiden name because my H told me he didn't want me to have his name after the divorce. <P>
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My stbx has requested to go back to her maiden name. I asked her why and she said that she had not realized that she had done so.<P>It is her choice, and I have conflicted emotions about it. On the one hand, I don't think she deserves the name. On the other, for the children's sake, I think she should keep the name so there is no confusion.
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I went back to my maiden name.... The decission to do it was mine, and was mostly because I don't want anything to do with him anymore.... He didn't love me anymore, and there is no connection there, and I gave him back almost everything else, why keep the name? (No kids involved, or I would have kept my married name).<P>The other big factor is that I like my maiden name, and I work in the family business. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif) This way everyone either knows I'm the boss' daughter, or thinks he's a very lucky man to be married to such a hot young chick  . LOL<P>Anyhoo.... that's my $.02 worth<BR>Smooches,<BR>B
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I took back my name too. I have no kids and I am not related to him anymore. It seemed right. We had only been married for three years anyway, so no big deal. I am a different person now. Although I am a different person that I was 3 years ago too. . . .
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I changed my name back to my maiden name and I even have 3 kids. I talked to them and they were OK with it. I didn't want to share my name with him or OW. And I like my maiden name better anyway.<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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I'm not changing my name. I have 2 little girls and I think it would be too confusing for them.<P>I have thought about it, and would love to take my maiden name back, but at the moment I can't.<P>If there were no children involved, it would have been done already.<P>Keriwiden - how old are your children? They sound older than mine. Mine are only 5 1/2 and nearly 3.<P>Far too confusing for them.<P>hugs to you jayhawk<P>Jo
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Bonnet,<P>My kids are 14, 11 & 10. They understood completely what was going on and understood why I wanted my old name back. If my kids had been younger I may not have changed it back either. Funny thing is, I still get called Mrs. G all the time! Oh well, at least I know. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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I would never in a million years take back my maiden name. Not only because of my kids, but my married name has been mine for almost half my life. He can take almost everything else away from me, but he can not take my name - not that he has expressed any desire to, anyway.
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I would like her to, mine has more significance that the average name, and she doesn't deserve the association.
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Thanks for the responses guys. My ex has not said anything to me yet about changing back to her maiden name, but I am almost half expecting it. We don't have any kids and were only legally married for 2 years so I really don't see a reason for her to keep my name. However, I feel that it's really up to her and I will respect whatever choice she makes on this one.
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My wife started to use her maiden name again even before she filed for divorce.<P>I couldn't care less whether or not she uses my family name. I didn't care when we got married, and I don't care now.<P>But then, I have a <I>very</I> common family name...<BR>
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GnomeDePlume,<P>My wife did and is doing the same thing. She is already using her maiden name. From her mouth "I always liked my last name, it is just so cute".... now does that sound like the words of an adult woman?<P>Don't know how I missed the signs that she was too young to marry - Looking back there were red flags all around me...<P>Mike<P>------------------<BR>God always waits for the right time to do the right thing in the right way.
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My XW never even took my name. Not for a single day. We thought it was a '90s kind of thing. <P>She may be proud of her name, but it's badly disgraced in her hometown, thanks to her father's unmentionable unprofessional antics. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/tongue.gif) <p>[This message has been edited by Sisyphus (edited January 24, 2001).]
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A little different spin... I never changed my maiden name.. I used his name socially, but professionally mine is much easier and I have had it for so long, I just couldn't see the reason... Probably something that bugged him also...
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Oh, you can bet that I am going to change my name--the memory of him hurts too bad. I don't want to forever sign my checks with his name. I don't want my maiden name, either. I am going to change it altogether.
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I plan on keeping exH's name until my D is 18 then I may change it back to my maiden name. Besides I bet it will bug his new OW wife that I have the same last name - now there will be two former Mrs. A's and one new Mrs. A.<P>I am actually thinking of coming up with a whole new last name - my maiden name wasn't bad but most people had a hard time pronouncing it even though it is a very common Irish last name.
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I am not going back to my maiden name. It is long and Dutch. I also have a 5yr old daughter and she and I are a family so we will have the same name. stbx auntie said I will always be part of their family.<P>It annoys the other woman no end, I have something she supposedly with never have. His surname.<P>I do not refer to my self as miss mrs or ms my name is just Rosey
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As vain as it may sound, I want my name back. I haven't said anything to her yet but after I ask my is there any chance question and she says no, I will tell her of me desire to have my name back.<P>Just MHO...<P>Bill
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In a fit of anger I told my then stbx to quit using my name since she wanted out of the marriage so bad and to also quit using my medical benefits.<P>She didn't quit until she got remarried in Dec. She of course quit using my benefits after the divorce because she had to pay for them.
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