And had a good time. Dancing etc. It felt real strange to be in this environment again...It was a lot of fun playing those coy games of a long time ago...it really hit me hard when I was dancing with this guy and the one song went right into another same type of dancing song and it was my STBX and my song played at our wedding. Wow what a trigger is all I can say...but I pushed through it and had a great time last night...<P>why do I feel so bad about going out last night...I had a nice time...it was nice to be flirted with but I felt so pathetic that a little attention from total strangers gave me such pleasure...<BR>I kinda feel that for the past 1.5 years I have felt I was unattractive and uninteresting. Since the word is out my H and I have split, my social life has taken off with new and old friends surfacing...<P>Man the emotions run the full spectrum with all this...and I thought that I was through with the feeling every emotion within in a 5 minute period ...

Well, just be careful. I know when we haven't been shown too much attention that it is pretty easy to lick it up, and there isn't anything wrong with that. But I think we all have to be a little careful in letting things go to far before we realise that this is not really what we want. In the meantime have some fun, and live a little - you deserve it!!

Go out and have your fun. You have nothing to feel guilty of. Remember that although you may not be ready for another relationship you can still talk to people and flirt a little. It is ok to say NO at the end of the night to.<P>Only you will know when it is right, lap up the attention and enjoy it. We deserve it after what we have been through