So, I pop in from time to time...the big deal last week was my H lack of initiative to come home and get his stuff. <P>I talked to him last week and he knows that I have filed for divorce. He knows that I mean business and am moving forward with a divorce that I really don't want but I cannot live with or hang around and wait for the type of man he has become.<P>But he continues to e-mail me about little things...weather...things that are happening in the area...my area...he doesn't live here anymore. <P>He makes no effort to change anything to move on with this new life he says he wants...when I asked him if he told his parents he said that they talked about some things..but no not divorce. <P>It is making me crazy. This little effort is not enough for me...but it does keep him in my life... I started packing some of his stuff so I wouldn't have to look at it...<BR>I have started reverting back to my maiden name as I change the accounts...<P>I think my STBX is crazy...he doesn't want me but he must stay in my life...?

Your H isn't crazy - this is actually pretty normal. Sounds like he is sitting on the fence and not ready to give up what he had with you. It has taken my H 3 years to introduce his new woman to his folks and it wasn't done by him - his folks encouraged the invite. If they hadn't I don't know how soon he would have pushed it. He hates conflict so just easier to live in his little cocoon. Sure makes it tough on us doesn't it?<P>Hang in there.<P>Missy3