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I haven't been around for a couple of weeks. Been trying to handle things on my own...being my own strength. But today I am turning out to be needy. My H was served this morning. He called and left me a message basically saying that I screwed up the divorce that we were going to try and make this as amicable as possible and I had to go and get lawyers involved and he had to get a lawyer now and blah blah blah...bottom line is he was served at work and embarrassed. <P>He had called yesterday and left me a msg about my upcoming trip and how it would have been nice if I had told him the reason why I wasn't available (specifically, like I would be out of town etc) for him to come get his stuff. Our mutual friend had told him that I was going on the trip. However, I had given him dates for weekends that did work for me but he never responded. <P>He ended up breaking down on the phone, crying and saying that he didn't really abandon me. I said that despite the fact he kept in limited contact and gave me a few bucks he lied to me. He said that he would be home in 2 weeks and that was 4 months ago, I have not seen him since. I even asked him point blank the day he left if this was his way of leaving me and he said emphatically no. <P>So he suffered a bit of embarrassment today by being served at work, called to ream me out and when I refused to take it, he broke down. <P>
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(((cpickel)))<P>I don't know why your man did what he did. But I do have compassion for you both. It is obvious that neither of you understands the other, and that he is a lot more fogged than you are. <P>All we can do is hope and pray it's for the best.
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I am sorry you are having a rough morning. Your H still sounds deeply confused...<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi
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I am so sorry for your bad morning yesterday. I know that so many of us here are in the same boat, but it pains me that anyone else would have to go through this. I can totally relate, if that is of any comfort.<P>Be proud of yourself for finding your own inner strength, but know that everyone here supports you. Take care, Petrie<BR>
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