I would like to know what the Bible (God) says about remarriage after a divorce? Is it ok?

Its a bit complicated and in some ways unclear but really the Bible says more about why to divorce and how to live married than it does about remmarriage. It does speak against marrying the same woman twice, and if taken literally, it limits the remmariage of women more than men. Please no one attack, I am saying NOTHING here.

If you're looking for Biblical answers regarding remarriage read 1 Corinthians 7. <BR>It clearly says that a husband and a wife should not separate however, if things are absolutely unbearable and they are forced to separate from each other, that she remains "chaste" until she is reconciled with her husband. It does say that a woman who is widowed is free to marry.

I keep getting that same message from the Bible You can not get remarried to some one else. So what can you do?? I have meet couple who are remarried and even teaching and working in churches. How is that ok??? <BR>I now have a boyfriend of 3+years we have both been divorced both Xs are remarried. It just doesn't seem "fair" that we can't be married.<BR>thanks for the insights this is weighting heavy on my mind.

I keep getting that same message from the Bible You can not get remarried to some one else. So what can you do?? I have meet couple who are remarried and even teaching and working in churches. How is that ok??? <BR>I now have a boyfriend of 3+years we have both been divorced both Xs are remarried. It just doesn't seem "fair" that we can't be married.<BR>thanks for the insights this is weighting heavy on my mind.

After six years of being divorced and troubled by your same concerns I talked with three pastors. Each stating all the information in the replies to your problem listed above with one exception: in the case of a husband or wife being unfaithful.One pastor explained that in this case that God approved of divorce. He also added that this meant being unfaithful with anything money,women,work, etc.<BR>If we've done something wrong by remarrying I feel we have a loving and forgiving God. Does he want us to be single and alone the rest of our life? I don't think so....<BR>By me remarrying it has given my two sons a male to share things with and talk to. They needed that.<BR>As for me, I had a chance to love again and I thank God for that. <BR>

thanks denise1<BR>did he give you any verses? like you I can't believe God would let us meet and love some one but not marry them.<BR>I hear sermon after sermon on our christian radio station (where I first heard of this site) condemming divorce. It really gets me depressed. You'd think a few preacher would have had a bad experience some where that would give them a little compassion for us sinner out here.<BR>Were you welcomed into a church? or are you looked down on?

Hi, Ronda, I read your post and I was in the same boat as you were. I am going to be divorced in about a week and I know that marriage can be something beautiful if shared by two people who really love each other and are willing to work at the marriage. I also read in the bible that if the (man is not pleased to dwell with the woman and leaves she is no longer bound to him and is free and she is bound to her father in Heaven.I know that I am going to re-marry one day it has been told to me through men of God. I feel like the others who have responded God isn"t going to send you to hell for re-marrying. Doing what you two honestly feel is right in your sight and God"s is what matters. People will talk regardless. When you and your boyfriend pray and get an answer from God that is what matters. May God bless you and your boyfriend maybe (mate). I'll be praying with you. August

Dear Rondatchr,<BR>I was not looked down on by the church. It was the pastor of the Baptist church that refused to marry couples that had been married before. The church years ago would not allow persons that had remarried to teach Sunday school classes. As for years ago, they didn't permit females to be Sunday School teachers or deacons that had remarried... but things change.<BR>Now the church welcomes all of the above including my husband and I. <P>But guess what! We went to the court house to be married. God is everywhere and he was at the court house that day. God heard all the words and promises that were spoken.<P>Go for it...

I just heard the story of Bill Faye's conversion on Sunday. He was married and divorced 4 times. But now he has quite a large ministry telling people how to win others to the Lord. Maybe God is not as judgemental as churches and people. I also read Sunday that the Catholic church still won't let remarried people recieve communion. We go to the Catholic church and we take communion but we are doing it illegally. We'll probably end up in Hell!<p>[This message has been edited by rondatchr (edited April 27, 1999).]

Everyone has a different opinion on whether it is appropriate to divorce / remarry and what religious references to use. People who remarry say of course it's ok. People who never got divorced say of course it's wrong, and that seems independant of religion.<P>My personal opionion is that if the person is the "dumped", chances are he/she didn't have much choice in the matter. The former spouse said it was over and not even counselling was likely to change his/her mind. In that event I can't see how the dumpee can be held responsible under any "religious" code. They probably had no control over it. (Individual circumstances will vary.)<P>In the case of the "dumper", chances are no religious code is going to affect thier decision anyway. That person has already decided that they want to (or feel they must) break commitments made to a long time lover and friend, to family, to children, and to God if they are religious. Chances are they are not going to feel particularly bound to religious opinion on the matter, so it's not worth worrying about. The dumper would have considerred thier own opinion before making the decision and already know that they think it's ok.

You make a lot of sense!!<BR>The I guy I was married to got a lot of counselling for a lot of committments he broke before he left the marriage and his 5 kids. That he never supported before of after leaving. ( another story) He bilked people out of over $200,000. Had judgments against him, hid from the irs for 9 years doesn't even file. So why would a little matter like divorce matter to him????? He made a major show of "religion" for about 20 years all the time deeply involved in porno.<BR>I guess I'm still looking for exoneration<BR>in the whole thing.<BR>thanks for listening

Try this page, I don't agree (personally) with everything posted on the site, but it will give you more information, and you can make your own judgement call about accuracy.<P>http://www.ChristianAnswers.Net/q-eden/edn-f004.html

SadQT<BR>that is a great site thanks so much. sometimes when you do a search you just don't come up with what you need. But that is really helpful.

As a pastor...this issue has been a difficult one...many would suggest it is easier to be forgiven for murder than divorce and remarriage. I read something several years that shed some interesting light on the subject. Under OT law...if a man or woman was guilty of adultery, they could be stoned to death. Thus, their death freed up the other memeber to remarry. Obviously, under the NT...we don't put folks to death for this sin...but the sin itself can kill a marriage. If the guilty spouse was sentenced to death for his sin...the other would be "leagally" free to marry again. I sure don't suggest that this be used as a loop hole to "get out" of a marriage...but it does offer another view on the "fornification exception"

As a pastor...this issue has been a difficult one...many would suggest it is easier to be forgiven for murder than divorce and remarriage. I read something several years that shed some interesting light on the subject. Under OT law...if a man or woman was guilty of adultery, they could be stoned to death. Thus, their death freed up the other memeber to remarry. Obviously, under the NT...we don't put folks to death for this sin...but the sin itself can kill a marriage. If the guilty spouse was sentenced to death for his sin...the other would be "leagally" free to marry again. I sure don't suggest that this be used as a loop hole to "get out" of a marriage...but it does offer another view on the "fornification exception"

Perhaps what we "want" to believe and what is really written sometime get muddled. However, once you marry, until either your spouse dies or commit adultrey and you cannot stay with that person - only then are you free of your marriage. In other words - when you make a promise - you're suppossed to keep it. In God's eyes you are still married to the "original" person you were married to (unless one of the above-mentioned) has occurred. So no matter how many times people "legally" divorce, get remarried, etc. etc. in God's eyes they are still married to their first spouse. Also - the adulterer in said situation - has no such freedom to be remarried, etc. etc. (of course - like they really care since they are committing adultrey anyway). Believe me I thought long and hard before I got married- waited 8 years (of dating someone) to be sure - and he still had an affair. Talk about luck!<P>------------------<BR>