Well about a week ago I found out my wife had a big emotional affair with someone. There was some physical but not too much. She has told me a few times now that she wants a divorce. That in her mind she is so far gone from the relationship that it can't be fixed. Do I keep fighting? Do I give it some time a month or two of being seperated before we pursue it further? I think she is wanting to move to fast and that I shouldn't give her everything that she wants right now. She wants a divorce and I am questioning if I should give her that so quickly. We have been together for 8.5 years and I have developed a relationship with her brother and her parents. Her parents happen to live accross the street to us. Now she is not wanting me to talk with her parents because they have pretty much chosen me over their daughter. The reason they are giving all of us in this just doesn't sound like a good reason. So what do I do now? Do I tell her lets seperated for a month and then we will talk then when we have cooler heads? She is just to determined right now and moving way to fast for me. Help on some advice???

First of all, you cannot control whether she initiates divorce proceedings or not, so why argue with her about it? Let he know you want to work on the marriage with her. Try Plan A. A separation will just give her time to get closer to the other man...you need to look better to her than the other man, which is what Plan A is about.<p>Most important is eliminating lovebusters. I bet she would consider controlling behavior from you a major LB! You can probably guess at many of the things that makes her angry. Do not unite with her parents against her...you want to be her friend not her enemy.