ok stbx hadn't seen our daughter since 11/20 and has barely spoken to her in btwn then and now. well friday he emails me to say he will be in the neighborhood sunday and would "love" to come see our daughter.<p>we don't speak just emails here and there to talk about the divorce and that is pretty much it. he doesn't even question seeing our daughter right now. <p>so he comes over and stays for an hr. we talked about his email and i told him stuff our daughter shared with me. he felt that he would give me $300 every other wk for c.support but the first check he would only mail me $40 b/c he pays daughters tutiion and her college fund which is $40 so he would mail me the " extra $40" because he is alloting $300 to our daughter every other wk and since he pays for those two things than 40 is all she gets that wk???? <p>i told him he could not make his own rules and i was not going for that. he claims he can't afford anything more b/c now he is splitting ow's house bills with her (which he didn't do when he first went there in feb)<p>meanwhile he hasn't supported his child in the last 4 months cause he was calculating his money and really giving it to ow for house bills so he took food out of daughter's mouth and clothes off her back and thinks nothing of it. <p>"we came up and he said we will never be together and that if it was to happen it would have happened already and i told him he was full of it since he lives and works with ow and she isnt the first ow only the first one he moved in with. <p>so i told him he never gave our marriage a real chance b/c with him living with ow he could never think he would feel love for me. am i right?<p>divorce papers will be filed in jan. and he has yet to spend any time with our daughter. never asks to see her on the wkend
only said he will be back sunday 12/23 probably for another hr. to bring xmas present. he is good for bringing presents that is why he came around on 11/20 to bring bday present 2 day before her bday <p>he doesn't plan on spending any holidays with daughter he spends them with ow and her family
its so wrong and hard to see him act like this <p>i am hurting so badly right now and all he tells me is to move on that its just time for us to move on easy for him since he has been with ow for over 1yr <p>i can not vision being in any kind of relationship right now and he is just so head over heels
going xmas shopping with her for his family and hers funny he doesn't even speak to his family but he is just really trying to live it up in ow eyes and she is really believing it.<p>funny everything he is doing w ow he once did with me and doesn't even see it. he just feels he has found true love. and he has no reason as to why him and i could never be.
daughter asked me what kind of eg are we showing her for when she gets married and not really me bc i am not doing anything but that she doesn't agree with her fathers actions (she is 7) and i told him and he just stared out the window
she also asked what adultery is and said oh that is what my daddy is doing <p>i told him everything she said and he just stared out the window and said yes i want a divorce we will never be togther its over and its time to move on <p>he had the nerve to say yeah it won't be easy but you just have to do it and not look back meanwhile he never wanted to be married and has always denied it to people who didn't know. <p>his who outlook is like just move on
we are not together and never will be again
i am having a hard time with xmas around the corner and new years <p>its gonna take a lot for me to get over this we were together 10 yrs and he acts like it was 10 months. i think maybe he never loved me and that is why its so easy for him to deal with he doesn;t think about it also he divorced me yrs ago in his mind so he is over it.
how do you divorce someone in your mind but still sleep with them, live with them and even speak to them and tell them you are going to work things out when we separated in jan and he was living with ow.<p>he acted like it was over and he came back in sept. and was back at her place 10/29 and said all along it was over long ago so why did he come back in sept and pretend to be trying to work things out with me and act like they ended when he knew i knew he was faking it. <p>he is the happiest man on the earth right now and when the divorce happens i think he'll throw a party i don't feel like i want him back well sometimes i do but for the most part i am extremely hurt and he doesn;t care
doesn't say sorry for all he has done or anything <p>i need help and maybe some antidepressants
he even kept everything like his mail coming here in the beginning and his gym membership for the neighborhood until he left again in oct. he cxld his membership and only has "junk"mail coming here which i told him to go do a change of address at the post office
