H was supposed to take kids out today...for dinner or show...he called and spoke to me explaining that he couldnt today cos he had some paper to write for work...(what is wrong with this guys priorities) thats one of the MAIN problems with him...work work work before and above ANYTHING else. I didnt say much...just ok...he asked if he could take them out tomorrow I told them to talk to them...daughter asked him why not today...he told her and she agreed for tomorrow. Youngest son(15) didnt want to talk to him at all> So I had to get back on the phone with H and tell him son didnt want to talk to him. H seemed a bit surprised...said well if he wants to come tomorrow he can. I said that was fine.
I have NO idea how to get through to h that these visits need to be REGULAR....even if its only a dinner....he knew he had whatever he had to do so he should have let them know that....I am not at all comfortable with his seeing them when it suits him.....geez if only I had the freedom of that.
I didnt get angry on the phone with him...but I am sure blazing now...as you can tell...what does he think these kids are anyhow??? he has really hurt them by walking out....and now he figures things just go on as before and everything will be fine grrrrr....i think he has lost his mind along with his family.
any thoughts

I have to agree...they can't see anything but their self-centeredness. Sorry to hear that you are in the same mess I am. I think the clobbering over the head with a frying pan is the best idea.<p>I hope when they are in their later years--they find out what not having their kids in their life means....it will be too late by then.

Make sure the frying pan is cast iron. The hit is more severe, and it doesn't go twang...!