Hang in there Ruined Life! Yes, getting re-M after one year was quick, but hopefully your new H does love you and will work through these issues w/ you. Don't ride the pity parade too long, you'll only alienate your current family and support net - making your hole deeper. Keep a long-term view - your eyes on the prize of long-term happiness some day and take each day a new. Seek out good C, and if you aren't getting what you need, seek a second councilor - and stick with it. I'll be thinking of you. > Karl

bump....

Here's a topic started by a WW regretting her actions and the harm caused... and joined by another WW echoing the same sentiments.

I'm in the process of deleting my older comments... preparing to do a Houdini and disappear from the boards. I thought this was a timely message now for various people on the board.

I'm sorry both the WW's who were looking for emotional healing, friendship, etc... got hit pretty hard as they tried to sort out their lives in, what was then, was "now" for them.

The WW's left the thread... and maybe the board.

They were human beings admitting they had made mistakes and were struggling. They were "wide open" for people not in a position to empathize personally... to be insensitive to their needs.

Anyway, check out the post all. It shows the reality of the choice to have an A and divorce... when one realizes, as fo1,ho0 states, the slow moving train hits... and feet dangle at the end of their rope.

It's nothing to rejoice in, to be sure. It's a trap, but by the grace of God, any one of us would have fallen into.

Mercy. I'm glad I, as a sinner, received mercy.

I'd burn in hell if it was up to me. Thanks Jesus!

Anyway, back to topic, these people having affairs don't realize that they are being set up for a life of emotional pain and torment.

Laura

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