It has been quite a long time since I have posted here at MB. My divorce was final last June and just last month my exH bought me out of my share of the house. It was very hard to let go of something that I put so much into but I couldn't afford it alone so I let him buy me out. I have moved to an apartment and everything was final this past Monday. I just don't know where to go from here. My ex is still living with the OW that he has been with since the beginning of the affair. He now says he is in no hurry to move back into his house. I feel like the OW somehow got the better of everything. She got my life that I used to have. My husband, my house and my life as I knew it. She got what she set out to get from square one.<p>My ex shows really no remorse or feeling for what he did and what I went thru. It is like his life never skipped a beat. He just found a new woman got rid of the old and never looked back. <p>Will I ever get over what he and the OW did by scheming, lying, cheating etc to me?<p>I thought that maybe after living with the OW and her kids now fulltime since September that reality might just hit him full steam but it doesn't look that way. And by telling me he is in no hurry to move back to the house just makes me feel all the worse.<p>Thoughts?????????????????

yes,<p>You asked this question:
"Will I ever get over what he and the OW did by scheming, lying, cheating etc to me?"<p>In a way, we never get over a life trauma. You have lost many things dear to you and it still hurts you very much. I do know that for me, time has softened the pain of the trauma greatly. I will never forget what I experienced, yet, it no longer consumes my life. I just no longer have the pain associated with thoughts of my exH and his wife, who was the OW.<p>Over time, you can redefine your life. Right now, it is hard, because you have just suffered another loss by having to give up your marital home. Try to focus on how great you new place is. Spruce up your apartment in whatever ways you can afford. Make it as flowery and feminine as you'd like! Accessorize, start collections, do whatever with your space to make it personal and pleasing to you!<p>Put your effort and energies into things that will yield you a positive return, yes. You have many people here who care that you are hurting. Give yourself more time to heal. Grant your life new meaning by making each day count for something positive!<p>Prayers and hugs, Desiree

Yes,
I felt the same way. However check out my post down the page aways.<p>Bob