I found out about my husband's affair at the end of 1996. We separated 12-31-98 and were divorced 5-1-2000. Around Thanksgiving of 2001, he married his affair partner and lives within 3 miles of me. I have not seen him since July of last year.
He has called twice --1. to try and get some papers needed for taxes. He wanted to come here to get them but I told him I would give them to our daughter).
--2. May 22, he called to tell me of the death of a brother-in-law in another state. I sent flowers.
Daughter tells me that her grandmother will be coming to town to visit him during the holiday weekend. Tomorrow, July 3, would have been our 34th anniversary.
I have sent cards and presents to my mother-in-law at different times, graduation presents and wedding presents to his various nieces and nephews. They've never left me out at those times. Haha
Daughter suggested that my mother-in-law would like to see me. I really don't think I can handle it at this time, knowing she is going to spend time with him and his new wife. After all, I've been trying very well to PLAN B.
I told my daughter I have nothing nut love for his mother. Even though I don't want her father back, I just don't think I can handle it emotionally at this time.
Am I being wrong? For much of the last 6 years, I've had to give into everyone else's feelings for the sake of "being big." However, I feel that my feelings count at this time as I have been wronged and I'm wanting to move on.
What do you think?
Martha
