Okay, I'll have a go....

After WH left it was approx. 250 days. I met a guy and was intensely attracted to him. Waited only a moderate amount of time before I jumped his bones! My sex drive has gone off the charts. As an added bonus he introduced me to the world of multiple O's. Sigh, I do miss him some days!

Well, that relationship did not pan out and have recently met another. But I have vowed to take things much slower. SO HARD SO HARD!!! and now my best friend is the one and only Mr. Jack Rabbit of Sex in the City fame. I must admit he is very good!!

Naughty Girl signing off!!!

45 days and I am starting to grinde my teeth. ARRRHHHHHH, watch out, I am pretty argessive now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> The antidepressants help to keep the animal down though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hmmmmmm.....it's actually been about 19 hours!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> But then again...I am a newlywed! LOL LOL LOL Sorry to all of you that aren't gettin'any...believe me, I know what it's like. But just think of how good it will be when you do get it!! YIPPEE!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey Marsha! (Lady M)
How have you been???

Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Dammmmmmnnnnnn It Boy! This thread was pounced on like a linebacker on a quarterback! Holy cow!

Ok, it hasn't been but a little over a month for me. I now wish I wouldn't have done it. It just wasn't worth the heart ache and depression afterwards!

I never knew this before the four-letter word "LOVE" but sex without love is not nearly what it should be. Before love came to town I would have sex just to fulfill my primal lust and feel ashamed after the deed was done!

I guess what I am saying is that if love is mixed in with sex it multiplies the effects and feelings several times over!

I can't wait to feel like that again, I will probably have sex before then but I know it won't be the same!

Is there anyone else that feels like me or am I the odd man out? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

What is sex???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You're not odd ... at least not in this case ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sex without love is just not fulfilling. Most of what I've read concerning a woman's O has to do with emotional connection, and how can you have that without love?

I can damn near O just talking to my BF on the phone, no physical contact, just desiring him, revelling in his love for me.

I can also O with b.o.b. but it is a simple physical release, temporarily relieving a need that only love-driven SF can meet.

Love is everything. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Roughneck, your not the only one but looking back I realize that if this was about the last time we had really "made love", well its been at least 3 1/2 years for me. There is a big difference between making love and just having sex. Of course if Harrison Ford, Mel Gibson, Brad Pitt were to walk in right now, I don't think I would care either way!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> or Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck, Robocop.... err wait a minute I had robocop was married to him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Well, if we are going to count sex with mutual love compared to sex for release...well according to my stbx, he hasn't LOVED me for fifteen years....

What a depressing thought <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> .

Can't wait to be with someone who REALLY loves me!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Does "Hallway" sex count?

hcii

ok, I don't work tomorrow, so I treated myself to not one but 2 drinks tonight! (and I seldom drink) Wow, but "Hallway Sex" is that like "elevators" "the laundry room" "the great outdoors". This thread is hilarious! sad, but hilarious! Cheers everyone, I know that around that corner is something really great waiting for me, but just to get around that corner!

Personally, I don't want it unless I know that person is for real (someone who has felt and experienced the same demise of a relationship as I have and who will only get together again sexually with a new partner when they trust that person is safe) -- I know, ha-ha, whenever does THAT happen! I can wait because sex just for sex is "Not my bag, baby" (yeah right, baby, do your thing).

I'm so confused.

lila 140,

I think hallway sex is when you pass each other in the hallway and growl #u(K You! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Actually my STBXWH is more into the large farm animals(OW) than I am... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I was actually cut off for 2 years before D'day, right after I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Then, 4 months before D'day (and 8 months after my H started drinking again), I forced the issue, so to speak. We had sex and the next day he started his constant verbal abuse. Four months later he left and moved in with the OW.

For 17 months, up until 2 months ago, sex continued, until I called it quits and resumed divorce proceedings. He was (and is) still drinking (and using drugs), lying every time he speaks, still living with the OW, still verbally abusive to me (and apparently to OW as well), and blaming me for absolutely everything.

I've exhausted plan A, B, C(counseling), and arrived at D... Not where I wanted to be, but like many others have said, I'm looking forward to a relationship with someone who loves me back, treats me well, and who doesn't need batteries...

Well, here's a wonderful example of how the new board features can have some riff-raff wander in on a forum they've never posted in before <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Anyhow, to the issue at hand...

Currently working on about 32 days... before that, about 7 days... before that... drumroll please... about 280 days.

Got to tell the story for those who missed it... Was cut-off at d-day (Sept 2001)... Wandered the SF desert until just after I told WW that I was leaving... Then she starts coming after me with a vengence... Had a great SF encounter, told each other that it was a mistake and wouldn't happen again.

I went away for a week on business, coming back expecting to continue my efforts to leave. She's cold and harsh on Friday... I Plan A as best I can, she melts pretty good... The next day... a whole day of SF - 4 times for me, 5 for her! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> She asks me, "are you still leaving?" I essentially ask "are you prepared to work on the M?"... well, I'm in Plan B now, so we can infer the answer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hmm, 280 days... that's about 5 DOG years... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ July 03, 2002, 11:29 PM: Message edited by: J.R. ]</small>

Lost Husband,
do you work on statystical analysis of these data?
Who will be the "winner" for Guiness?
For me: last sex (almost raping) was in March 2000, making love? Let's think: I thought in Jan 2000 but according to exH 's words some time about 1989 (even then it's under the question)
Can someone remember me how do people usually do that?

ok, "Hallway Sex" I'm 44 and still naive, Robocop was my only instructor and apparently not very good either! But I still feel stupid! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Does anybody in here live in Florida?

July 2001, have to say I dont miss it. Our sex life wasnt that great to start with. I can tell you MOW didnt want him for just the Sex unless her STBX was worst than my X in bed.

M-17yrs
D-5-23-02
C-13, 28, 7 grd
W-48, X-42

MOW-29 yrs
M-10 yrs
C-3 under 10
D-pending

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Roughneck:

I never knew this before the four-letter word "LOVE" but sex without love is not nearly what it should be. Before love came to town I would have sex just to fulfill my primal lust and feel ashamed after the deed was done!

I guess what I am saying is that if love is mixed in with sex it multiplies the effects and feelings several times over!

I can't wait to feel like that again, I will probably have sex before then but I know it won't be the same!

Is there anyone else that feels like me or am I the odd man out? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> [/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I feel the same way that you do. I much rather make love then have sex. It has only been 50 days for me. My H just left in May. Funny thing is I miss him more than I do the making love.

It's been so long, I'm not even sure how long it's been. I don't count days or even months. I'm approaching a double digit, that is, if I'm not there already.

quote: Does anybody in here live in Florida?

I live in florida........ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

for me it's been 270 Days.

Before that it's been maybe 3-4 times a year for the 2 or 3 years prior to that.

We used to have G-R-E-A-T SF. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I miss it!
but will not have IT when he has IT (OW)

I can't remember the last time we made LOVE. That s the part I miss the most - the tenderness, the feeling like you'll just melt into each other.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Gotta stop <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Maybe those Farm animals aren't so bad after all <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

D.

<small>[ July 04, 2002, 05:28 PM: Message edited by: WillGetThruThis ]</small>