Hello to Everyone,<P>I have been wondering how does everyone deal with depression, Pain and anger over their spouse's affair? <P>My H and I are 5 months into recovery and I still find myself suffering from periodic bouts of the above mentioned emotions. Sometimes the feelings are almost overwhelming.<P>Here is a little background info on my situation. Last year my H had 2 affairs during a rough patch in our marriage. 1st affair was with a woman who had been my best friend for over 20 years. (She refuses to talk to me about why she participated in an affair with my H). 2nd affair was with a co-worker and resulted in a pregnancy. (FYI, I have wanted to have more children for about 7 years now but H always refused to have more than the 2 we have). <P>Now, My H and I are doing pretty good. I am sure that we are going to make it. However, I find myself getting depressed over the fact that he had these affairs, that I have lost the person I "thought was my best friend", and OW has a baby, and I don't, and I have CS payments to put into our budget now. <P>I do not want to take any sort of anti-depressant medications. I am looking for natural and spiritual ways to overcome these feelings.<P>Thank you.

Have you tried talking to a minister or a priest? They can be very helpful. I do not recommend marriage councellors as I have had unreliable experiences with them.<P>If you want to save your marriage, do not go to a betrayed wives support group. They will support you right to a divorce.<P>You sound like you've lost a lot of companionship with the lost of you former best friend. You need to turn to other friends to share time with. Try not to dump emotions on them or they may try to avoid you. But you do need to develop existing female friendships through shared activities and interest.<P>Best of luck.