Ok...
(this was to be a good/happy post...
... I since found out my xW's motives... see
later in this post]!)
Some of you know that my 19 yo son (stepson) came back to live with me... this Monday (3 days ago).
It's been hard on him...
...because he feels he has abandoned his mom...
...that he won't be able to see her as much...
...that life is just too 'changing'!
It hasn't helped that my mother (when she comes over to help with the younger 2)... puts him down and makes him feel like dirt... (all because of the violent episode back in November... that's when he moved in with his mom {and OM)...)
It hasn't helped that my dad...
...won't allow me in his house... if I bring my stepson...
...and my dad won't come over to my house anymore!
I love my parents...
...but they don't know
forgiveness yet...
...I pray for them.
They need some reflection on... "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespress against us"...
...do they (or any of us) really know what we are saying when we say this?!...
...maybe we
all need that reflection! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Back to my son...
He's been distraught... about "losing" his mother again...
...he was told by his mom... for weeks... before deciding to move back with me... don't do it....
...that stepson would regret coming back to me...
...and all of these kinds of things... up until the very day he came home this Monday!
Today......he went out to talk to her...
...to ask if he could move back in with her...
...and she turned him down.
She confirmed (as my stepson tells me) that she will
shortly (days or a few weeks at most) move into the nudist camp (see
Nudism & Kids... II)... and so he can't move back with her. This is contrary to the months/years he thought it would take her to move to the camp.
She (his mom) did suggest that he find an appartment... get a full time job... and go to the local community college all on his own (she still has the $35,000 from his Social Security benefits)... but will not help him with any of this. My son is still confused on whose abandoning who. And still... after more almost 3 years of his mom initially leaving... wishes me and his mom at least lived close to each other... and that there was less animosity (from her to me). They (xW and OM) will be moving about another 30-45 minutes farther west... on top of a 90 mile drive they have from us now.
Pray for my son...
...so that he can see the good in his life...
...the time he has with his younger siblings...
...the friends he's had for years and years...
......who will go to the same community college he will be attending in September
...the closeness of this grandmother (on his mother's side) and aunts and uncles.
...the financial support he'll get by living at home... while going to school.
...being on medication (w/ antidepressant) and counseling helps too.
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With the confirmation of his mother moving shortly into the nudist camp...
...it makes my appointment with my attorney (coming up Wednesday of next week)... all the more relevant.
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Love to my friends...
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Jim/NSR
<small>[ July 13, 2002, 05:23 AM: Message edited by: NSR ]</small>