Ok. As a victim of an A, I wish someone had done this to my WW and his now x OW.

Son and I, after my getting an awesome hairstyle, I must admit, went to eat at Golden Corall tonight so I could have salad and him veggies and good stuff. Anyway, son wanted ice cream after dinner and I was making his swirly cone when this couple, man 40's, woman early 30's was behind us. They couldn't keep their hands off each other. Seeing strange behavior like that made me glance at their hands. He was wearing a wedding band and she was not. I just found it wierd and son and I walked back to table. They were sitting in direction where I could see them. More PDA. Not like what you'd see at an all you can eat buffett, unless it could be one of those for guys at a strip club or something (they advertise those in newspapers so that's how I know ha ha)

Anyway, I didn't lose it until I was taking son to our suv. Turns out, the woman was parked directly beside my vehicle and her lover boy was next to her on the other side. I noticed as I was walking towards my vehicle that their tags were both GA but from different counties. Hence, not man and wife. This time it was waaaaay more disgusting. Making out leaning on her car and he hands her this card and they continue to make out as I am walking towards my vehicle. They are taking up all the space beside my vehicle and I have to place my son in his carseat. Plus, my poor son is witnessing this scene. I coughed pretty loud and they didn't move. Was still wearing labcoat and scrubs. Still looked sort of professional at this time. Placed my son in car seat and shut door loudly to get their attention. Son was playing with new toy in truck and couldn't hear what I said, plus I do not yell, just made my poing. I said to man, "hey you, I work in X county and I know your wife." You'd have thought I dropped the atomic bomb on them. Like catching two junior high school students kissing in the hallway at school. I then said, you see that child in that little carseat? He will grow up in a broken home most likely because his father had an affair and left us for another woman." The woman's mouth dropped. I just got in, backed out and drove off.

Never knew how rampant this A thing is folks. I wanted to say to the monkeyho wanna be this: At least my STBX H took his OW to exciting destinations like South Beach and stayed in $500 a nite suites. All you've got is the 9.99 all you can eat buffet. You need to work on your goldigging abilities. I'll give you OW's name and she can teach you all the tricks."

Great one Peachy!!!!!

Unbelievable how people are, that is just sickening.

you go girl.

I love it.

Not Peachy-

You are my HERO!!!!! Yay!!!

I take the city bus... well, one day, minding my own business, I notice these two "love birds" practically laying on one another in the back seat. Both are in their late 30's, and look like they've better days. It was getting kind of gross, and Everyone was pointedly trying to ignore them, THEN (gasp) this "lady" starts practically screaming "When are you going to tell your wife about us?" Over, and over, and over.
Well, from the looks on people's faces, we were ALL about to PUKE!!! I really didn't have the nerve to say anything (that is why you're my hero) but I looked him right in the eye. To which he looked away. Cheatin' B******! Well, thank YOU for letting ME vent about total strangers. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WAY TO GO PEACHY!!!!!!!!!

It really is unbelieveable how rampant divorce is, I guess I was just blind to it.

Of my d's friend's she says she only has one set that has an intact family. She didn't count the other family whose mother is an alcoholic and the father just hides at work so he is never around.
My d doesn't haven't any good family models.

Divorce seems to be running rampant in my area too. My divorce lawyer just got divorced, another gut I played softball and basketball with is separated from his wife. Three ladies I just met are in process of getting divorced. Everyone is in late 30's, early 40's.

Another friend of mine is fooling around with a married woman(he says nothing is happening) although she got mad he was flirting with the one woman that is getting divorced. This guy has already been divorced once and his kid visits his mother during the summer and holidays(she lives out of state). I think I'll ask him if he will enjoy visiting his kids when his wife finds out.

Good for you, Peachy!

People in our society have been conditioned to look the other way when others behave inappropriatly in public.

It took guts for you to speak up the way you did!

BW

Uhm, folks?

The first time I was married, I rarely wore my wedding ring except for dress up, but H ( now XH) wore his all the time. We didn't quite engage in PDA's as extreme as what is described here, but we did hug and kiss in public sometimes. I wonder if anyone thought I was cheating with a married man?

Peachy,

As you can notice I am in Georgia as well, maybe I could hire you to do the same thing to my wife and her car salesman boyfriend/fiance.

Heck, it was probably my wife you saw, if it was Burgendy f-150, you gotta get in touch with me!

elspeth-
I don't know if anyone thought you were cheating...

One day H and I were at the "dog park" waiting for tennis court. Well, ended up talking to this nice lady. H and I were being lovey dovey. I noticed that the lady looked at my wedding ring finger then H(I'd left my ring at home, he hadn't) and her demeanor went a bit cold. Who knows, but next time we went, I wore the ring. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My exH NEVER wore a wedding ring!! Wanted everyone to know he was VERY AVAILABLE!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">elspeth-
I don't know if anyone thought you were cheating...
One day H and I were at the "dog park" waiting for tennis court. Well, ended up talking to this nice lady. H and I were being lovey dovey. I noticed that the lady looked at my wedding ring finger then H(I'd left my ring at home, he hadn't) and her demeanor went a bit cold. Who knows, but next time we went, I wore the ring.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My point is that you can't assume that two people aren't married to each other just because one wears a ring and the other doesn't.

I'm not even sure that the cars were evidence. What if they worked different shifts and had a chance to meet for dinner, but in order to do so one of them had to borrow a coworkers car? And that coworker had recently moved to town from another county? I know it's a stretch, but with strangers, you just don't know.

elspeth:

Well, if they WERE married (to each other), then Peachy's remarks would have struck them as funny. Even if they didn't react until she'd left, what real harm could have been done? IF they were M'd to each other, that is! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

To any who think these guys were really undercover as a married couple...Let's see.

I failed to mention in my description of the evening's events the following facts to further prove I am not hallucinating..I however, had been hallucinating in my own M thinking that H was really working, going on business trips etc.

But now my thinking is pretty clear, actually.

Other facts not previously divulged:
1)I was sitting in a very empty part of a crowded family restaurant. My son has just turned 4 and is not the cleanest eater. He loves to keep going back and getting new things at the buffet place. To him, it's incredible. Only one other table was occupied in this section and it was with other couple, far away from any other prying eyes.
2) She was from my county, he was from another county. This restaurant was not anywhere near both counties. Was out of the way for both. If they were husband and wife, they'd have vehicles from same county. Personally, I wouldn't let someone else borrow my car and drive it so far away. And neither car was a rental. So let's cast aside those other two theories as well.

3) Can understand taking off wedding ring for sports competitions, I only took mine off when snorkeling or scuba diving or swimming. No ocean, lake or pool nearby.

Prosecution rests. I also agree w/person who said that they'd laugh and say, "we're married". Instead when confronted, woman jumped back and he immediately let her go. Like I said, either two caught junior high students or deer in a headlight. They were cheating and it was disgusting. However, I'd like to say that I wish they were married, because if they were, they had lotsa chemistry and appeared to be blissfully happy. Actually, I hope I am wrong but seriously doubt it folks..

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">To any who think these guys were really undercover as a married couple...Let's see.
I failed to mention in my description of the evening's events the following facts to further prove I am not hallucinating..I however, had been hallucinating in my own M thinking that H was really working, going on business trips etc.
But now my thinking is pretty clear, actually.
Other facts not previously divulged:
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2) She was from my county, he was from another county. This restaurant was not anywhere near both counties. Was out of the way for both. If they were husband and wife, they'd have vehicles from same county. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Unless, of course, they were relative newlyweds, whom prior to being married, lived in different counties. When you move to a new state, you do have to register your car in the new state, but when you move from county to county in your state, do you need to re-register and get a new license plate?

QUOTE]3) . . . Can understand taking off wedding ring for sports competitions, I only took mine off when snorkeling or scuba diving or swimming. No ocean, lake or pool nearby. [/QUOTE]

Well, as I said, I hardly wore mine at all, and it wasn't so I could cheat. It was just a very uncomfortable ring and I didn't realize it until after I got married. I also stopped wearing my current wedding ring for a year because I gained a lot of weight and it didn't fit anymore. I finally had it resized-then I lost a lot of weight and it fell off. Fortunately I found it and had it resized again. But that left a long stretch when I wasn't wearing it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Prosecution rests. I also agree w/person who said that they'd laugh and say, "we're married". Instead when confronted, woman jumped back and he immediately let her go. Like I said, either two caught junior high students or deer in a headlight. They were cheating and it was disgusting. However, I'd like to say that I wish they were married, because if they were, they had lotsa chemistry and appeared to be blissfully happy. Actually, I hope I am wrong but seriously doubt it folks..
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Prayerfully moving ahead
J.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If a very angry stranger confronted me in a parking lot, saying something that didn't make sense to me, I think I'd look like a deer in the headlights, too, rather than laughing.

I think the odds are that they were cheating-I also think it's still possible that they were a married couple. I don't know whether what you did was right or wrong; I do think it's possible your conclusion about these people may have been wrong. Only you know if, weighing the probability that you were right and the risks of not saying anything against the probability that you were wrong and the risks of saying something, you would rather be wrong and say something than not. But the same way I don't want to judge your actions, I don't want to judge theirs, either.

El

Well, heckfire and tarnation <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I think she was doing them a favor if they were cheating ...and maybe had a spark of conscience firing.

The value of what she said if that was the case might be far greater than the possible risk of insulting a M'd couple. Heck, I think I was a newlywed once, and I'm pretty sure we would have gotten a kick out of something like that if it happened 2 us. But then, we used 2 hang all over each other at home, but we seldom did more than hold hands in public, and I wouldn't lean on someone else's car.

Who knows, maybe some unknowing BSs out there will have reason 2 thank her for what she said? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Persevere, troops!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But the same way I don't want to judge your actions, I don't want to judge theirs, either.

El[/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But isn't this what you have done, you have judged her by pointing out endlessly how this could have been a mistake

so what if it was, big deal

if it wasn't & there was at least 1 WS there maybe by her words she might have scored some very valuable points that are needed to be made. so many times our friends, families don't really say what needs to be said because everyone is afarid to hurt someones feelings.

She spoke out for something she believes in, don't we all need to do that more, or is even adultry becoming so PC that a person can't make comments

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But isn't this what you have done, you have judged her by pointing out endlessly how this could have been a mistake
so what if it was, big deal
if it wasn't & there was at least 1 WS there maybe by her words she might have scored some very valuable points that are needed to be made. so many times our friends, families don't really say what needs to be said because everyone is afarid to hurt someones feelings.
She spoke out for something she believes in, don't we all need to do that more, or is even adultry becoming so PC that a person can't make comments</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, you do have a point there, Sing. There is certainly something to be said about supporting someone who is speaking out for something she believes in.

El

What has changed in society that made people afraid to criticize bad behaviour? I remember learning in Psych 101 that there are laws and morays (sp). The morays were the unwritten rules that people were expected to follow and would be criticized (or humiliated) by someone for breaking. Like cheating. People used to be 'punished' by society for this destructive behaviour. Now it seems to be encouraged by the media. It's sad.

Having thought this issue over, I realize an apology is due NPiG. I had no right to criticize her logic. I wasn't even there in the restaurant at the time and her actions didn't concern me. I was rude to make an issue of this and I'm sorry.

El

You weren't rude, Elspeth!

I can't speak for anyone else, but I enjoy an opposing opinion now and again..gives me a chance to point out why I'm so right and they are so wrong! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I am also among those who would have gotten a kick out of the whole incident if someone thought my H and I were illicit lovers. We probably would have rushed home to have great sex! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

BW