Ok lupo you are added. Glad to have you. That would be great if you took the womens part. I am just going to give a brief summary of the weeks chapter. I am just going to pick out some key points. The main focus is on praying for each other as well as our own restoration of marriages.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ September 30, 2002, 01:11 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

cajunky, I believe in the power of prayer, but I don't know that God's will and mine are necessarily the same. I've prayed for my M and for my STBXWH since DDay, almost 2 years ago,the day he moved in with MOW. I turned my M and my H over to God and pray for His will.

Since that time, my H and the very much younger MOW have gotten deeper and deeper into drugs and alcohol. He has criminal charges pending against him, he's lost his driver's license and his professional license is under investigation. He hasn't worked since DDay. Communication from him became more and more hateful until I ended it by changing my phone, cell phone, and e-mail addresses.

We've been living apart for almost two years. My H treated his XW the same way - stringing her along, continuing to have sex with her, and lying to her while blaming her for everything - and she tried to tell me then but I just wouldn't believe her until 20 years later when he did the same thing to me.

I would like to pray for God's will for my M, for H and OW, and for myself to be able to forgive my H for the abuse, lies, and betrayal, accept God's plan for all of us, and let go of my expectations.

Letstry...Lets pray for the healing of your husbands addiction first. When he hits rock bottom and knows you are praying and standing by him then maybe he will listen to God talking to him. He has to walk with God before God will heal him. God doesn't take away our choices but if we are really walking with him he has a whole bunch of influence whether we make the right choice or wrong choice. That has to take place before marriage restoration can take place. We have to get rid of these inner things first before we can restore our marriages. Join us in praying every weds. and we will pray for you also.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ September 28, 2002, 04:37 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

This is for Weds. October 2,2002.

Highlight of chapter 1 "her husband"

Your wife wants the security of knowing that when things are tough and down to the wire - even when the enemy is already celebrating your demise and all appears to be lost- you have the faith to believe that up to the very last second everything can turn around. She wants you to trust that with God nothing is impossible, and because of that you will never give up for the impossible to happen.

If there is one thing learned about prayer , it's that if we have any unforgiveness, bitterness, selfishness, pride, anger, irritation, or resentment in our hearts, our prayers will not be answered. What is in our hearts when we pray has more effect on whether our prayers are answered than the actual prayer itself.

Part of dwelling with your wife with understanding means recognizing that your wife is in need of your covering, protection, and love. Because you are heirs together in Gods grace you need to honor her in your thoughts, words, and actions

The most difficult part will be praying with a heart thats right with God. Thats why praying for your wife must begin with praying for yourself.

This is the prayer at end of chapter. You can use it or pray your own or use both.

Prayer

LORD, create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me(Psalm 51:10). Show me where my attitude and thoughts are not what You would have them to be, especially toward my wife. Convict me when I am being unforgiving. Help me to let go of any anger, so that confusion will not have a place in my mind. If there is behavior in me that needs to change, enable me to make changes that will last. Whatever You reveal to me, I will confesss to you as sin. Make me a man after Your own heart. Enable me to be the head of my home and family that You created me to be.

Lord, show me how to really cover (wifes name) in prayer. Enable me to dwell with her with understanding and give honor to her so that my prayer will not be hindered(1 Peter 3:7). Renew our love for one another. heal any wounds that have caused a rift between us. Give me patienc, understanding, and compassion. help me to be loving, tenderhearted, and courteous to her just as You ask me in Your Word(1 Peter 3:8). Enable me to love her the way You do.

Lord, I pray that You would bring (wifes name) and me to a new place of unity with one another. Make us be of the same mind. Show me what I need to do in order to make that come about. Give me words that heal, not wound. Fill my heart with Your love so that what overflows through my speech will be words that build up, not tear down. Convict my heart when I don't live Your way. Help me to be the man and husband You want me to be.

Remember to pray for everyones marriage as well as your own.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ September 29, 2002, 12:39 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Add me in too!! This is so exciting!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

cajunky and others,

I am in a similar situation to LetsTry. WH is addicted to alcohol and drugs and hasn't lived at home in over 3 years. Please pray for his recovery as well because there can be no real relationship until that is gone.

Thanks and God Bless,

D.

Will....we will pray for that first for you too.

Love in christ
cajunky

Highlight of chapter 1 "his wife"

My favorite Three-word prayer..."Change him, Lord." But the Lord's favorite three word prayer for you to utter is: "Change ME, Lord."

WHen you pray for your husband to change, you can surely expect changes. They'll be in YOU. God sees things we don't. He knows where we have room for improvement. He uncovers attitudes and habits that are outside His perfect will for us. This whole requirement is especially hard when you feel your husband has sinned against youw ith unkindness, lack of respect, indifference, irresponsibility, infidelity, abandonment, cruelty or abuse. But God considers the sins of unforgiveness, anger, hatred, self=pity, lovelessness, and revenge to be just as bad.

If you are angry with your H, tell God. Don't lit it become a cancer that grows with each passing day. Don't say, "I'm going to live my life and let him live his." Instead, confess the anger, hurt, unforgiveness, disappointment, resentment, and hardness of heart towards him. When there is behavior that needs to change in either of us, I pray you would enable that change to happen.

[i]Sometimes the best things you can do is not say anything, when all you want to do is talk, explain to him what he needs to do. If you do have words that are hard to hear, pray and ask God to give you the right moment and the right words to say so your H will recieve it. If your H is not a believer, you probably already know how much good it will do to keep talking to him. [i]

This is the prayer at end of chapter. You can use it or pray your own or use both.

Prayer

LORD, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don't have what it takes to be one with Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good faithful, gentle and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart, and break down the wall with Your battering ram.

Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my H. I confess the times I've been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do -- totally and completely. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of sepaation where the realness of divorce begins.

Make me my H's helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and real support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud of to say is his wife.

I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my H from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept the way he is and not trry to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change.
Teach me how to pray for my H and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create a new love between us. Show me what unconcditional love really is and how to communicate it so that we can be in agreement. Bring unity between us so that we can be inagreement about everything. (Amos 3:3)

I pray that our committment to you and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as yOu made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and teach and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe Your life into this m.

Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You've given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new passion, and new acceptance. Give my H a new wife, andlet it be me.

Hello,

Could you please include my husband and myself on your prayer list? I already pray for all of the hurt souls here trying to save their families. It will be nice to do so as a group.

PasDeDeux

Please add my exH and me to your list. I will pray for all those on the list, naturally. Prayer does work, and it does change things.

Thanks,
Hopeful

Please put my name on the list. I've started to read "The Power of a Praying Wife again last night. A year after I read it the first time. This time it means so much more to me.

After D-day I was very disrespectful towards my WH husband. I even told him so. I've asked God this morning to forgive me for my anger, resentment and disrespectfulness towards him.

My love for my H is unconditional.

Thanks

Cajunky,

Can we take all the names of those who've asked for prayer, and type them all up in one list for tomorrow?

Uh, I mean only those who responded to this thread...

Obviously, my prayer request would start with reconciliation w/WH.

God Bless,

Lupo....I have added everyones name to the list at the beginning. I am trying to keep it updated daily. If I have missed anyone then let me know.

It feels great knowing so many people will be praying for our marriages.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Cajunky my friend, think I have totally given up all hope..Left that to God. Still pray for him. And for us.

He is as non repentant as ever.

OK, here's an emergency request:

Maybe slightly off-topic (not re: Marriage-Building)

I got home from work this afternoon and the house was about 90 degrees!! It seems the air conditioner decided its "time had come." Don't know what is wrong....can't get somebody here till late Wednesday, if then. Anyway, it appears quite serious, but a little prayer that it isn't serious couldn't hurt, right? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Thanks all!

and God Bless.

Praying now lupo. Peachy your name is added

Love in Christ
cajunky

Cajunky - please add myself (cry2much) & stbxwh (SNL) to your list. Things are settling down some, would like to have WH see me as a special person, I do see him as a special person.

Have been away from the boards for awhile, too much to do here, and with all that is happening with the divorce, seems I am going in circles. Also, trying to get things done with my upcoming surgery on October 31st. I am having rotator cuff surgery, so if you could add that to the list, would be thoughtful too. With MRI, they found my rotator cuff torn, and a flap, and a bone spur.

I am going to print out the list of people on your prayer list tomorrow. Pray for them at night. I will add them to the prayer list at church I started to go to 3 weeks ago. God can make miracles happen, Thanks you Lord.

CaJunky,

I would also appreciate it if you could add us (David & April) to the list. I don't fell like He's been listening to me by myself, so maybe it would help to do this together...

Thank you.

<small>[ October 02, 2002, 08:44 AM: Message edited by: LostAgain ]</small>

Hi All,

Cajunky, this is a wonderful thread you have and I have certainly hope my name is added to the list.

Just a little background, H-55, me 50, M - 3 years, No Children. H left in July, no contact whatsoever, D-September, OW 25
Yikes! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Through this time, I have had to rely on the Lord alot, and I would suggestion everyone does the same. I spend at least an hour a day in prayer and worship.

I'm also reading a book entitled 'Finding Peace In Your Heart' by Stormie Omartian. It is awesome!

Above all we must remember that this is still the day that the Lord has made and we must rejoice and be glad in it. 'No weapon formed against us shall prosper'. That means OW, OM, and WS's. We must hold on to that.

And ask that God's Will be done in our lives. No one knows better what we need than Him. And He will tell you if you would only ask Him. You may not like it but it would be needful and necessary.

Shine the light inward, and allow the Lord to Minister to your heart. Focus on Him and He will give you peace and everything else will fall into place.

God Bless You,
relady

Said my prayers today for all of you....... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> K