Well all I have to say is no it probably won't. My EX just got his divorce from the OP after being married only 1 1/2 years and actually they have been seperated for 5 months. It seems the fun went away when it wasn't really hurting anyone anymore. She got tired of the relationship and found someone new leaving my ex in the dust.

Don't feel to sorry for him he moved to another state and in 1 month was living with another woman. He has her so suckered. She told my daughter She feels so bad for him because he worked so hard all of his life now he has nothing because of her. Hello news flash, before he started wondering he had a nice home, 3 kids a good wife his own business, two new Dodge pickups,
and two dogs.

Now he has not alot.

He made his own choices. Were they the wrong choices probably but they were his doing.
Do I miss him? No. I can't say I do. We were married for 17 years and most of them good., but no, there is alot I don't miss about him. Alot that I never relized until we were apart from eachother for quite awhile.

So to all of you. This is not the end of the world. There is life out there. Don't get me wrong there are marriages who can survive this but just know that in time it all gets better.

Jillybean who is now "gulp" 38

Dear jillybean36,

I feel better after read your post, very wise saying.

My husband has an affair this May, and want me to forgive him. We working on the Plan A...but he aways run away to the O/W for one night or two, then come home and said sorry. He has been doing that run and come back 3 times in Sept.,...at last 02 of Oct., I ask him to move out and since then I didn't ask his phone. (just hang up when he called). The last time he call me is 10 of Oct.,. I know he is living together with O/W.

Actually, I make the devoice in June....I miss him sometimes, but he want to has both woman at the same time, then he is wrong. I rather be alone. We married 3 years and been together for 4 years...so many memories.

But I think if someone change, then it's change. Why I need to forgive what he done to me. He should know it's wrong before the affair start.
I told me "O/W" is my bottom line.

Anyway,he know I cannot be his friend after I devoice. How can I be his friend that I use to be his wife. And I am not going to wish him all the best. Why I need to do that. He betray me.

It still to many questions in my head, why he done all these to me. He have been out of work for 4 years, and I support the family,,,,,. I really feel sick and tried for all.

Wish one day, I can be like you..so clam and just look at the situation as thrid party.

Thanks again for your wise input.

Gloria

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha hahahahhaha..

I am laughing. My stbx H got dumped three months ago by his "SOULMATE". Yes, ms. monkeyho dumped Austin. She probably either got tired of his dragging his feet in this divorce. Or she got worried because I would be dragging her butt into the courtroom (live in a fault state thank Goodness), which I am going to do irregardless of their breakup. They were doomed. A foundation made of quicksand. No stability only lies. And my stbx STILL believe she is a real blonde and those lips and chest are real...lol....

So much for the "we were meant to be" poop they shovel at us.

It sure is hard to feel sorry for them when they throw their lives away for something that is doomed to fail. Think the fog makes their brains switch to the off position. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

jillybean,

I am always pleased to read when illicit relationships crash and burn.

Unfortunately, my H has been with the OW for over 3.5 years. He is finally working again, after being unemployed for over two years, but at a very low paying job. He may or may not be married to her, depending on whether you believe what he told the kids or what his W-2 and paystubs say. He is living a life of relative luxury, driving an expensive car and wearing expensive clothes, and not seeing a whole lot of his kids. It is all about money - he probably won't leave her because he'd have difficulty supporting himself on his own, and she probably won't leave him because her age and weight limits her opportunities.

notpeachy,

How did you know he was dumped? In my situation it is hard to know but I suspect there is something going on between my W and the OM. Keep in mind she's still in TX and the OM is in the midwest where I am. They communicate via phone, e-mail and regular mail. They have been doing this since June of this year and he's told her in the past that he does not want a long distance relationship.

The reason for my suspicion is because she's been asking me questions that have left me wondering. For instance, would I take her back if the R fails as I said it would?

Anyway, for me the best feeling would be for my W to get out of the fog and dump his a**. If he were to dump her (more probable in my case), she may be too proud to come back to me. This is one of the reasons I need to stick to Plan A so she can feel safe to come back to me.

jb36 - I was just talking to my sister about this last night. Told her that I still can't understand how he could give up everything for the OW. We had a house, 3 cars, a camper, a dog and cat and he owned his own business.

He lost everything except for his truck and the dog. Even my D is keeping him at arms length lately. Think she is finally understanding how much pain he put us all through.

I just don't see how you can throw away all your friends, family (his parents & brothers won't speak to him) and our family for something that more than likely isn't going to last. It may already be in the dumper but I am to the point that I don't care and I used to think that he was a really smart man but now I don't think he has any more smarts than my sophmore in highschool.

I read your other post and it sounds like you are very happy. That gives me hope. Thanks for letting us know that what they say is true, the relationships that come from A's don't last.

Formerly - Is this a Bad Dream

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Hey Jilly

My XH got remarried April this year and his divorce went through some time in September or October. Apparently they were only married and living together for about 2 weeks... strange....
Think maybe OW wanted to prove a point - that she'd 'won' and then realised she only got a booby prize!

XH still out of a job (hopefully he will be starting one soon - if his old company will take him back). He might have had his car re-possessed by the bank... He is doing marijuana (spelling?). So he is pretty messed up. I feel for him but he no longer effects me, my feelings and my life. I have finally moved on. Just need to find myself a new guy....

Good to hear ( in ur other post ) that you are doing well!

Love and care
Pantha