Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are doing "POWER of a Praying Husband" for the men and "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home)

Love in Christ
Cajunky

<small>[ November 06, 2002, 09:04 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

I hope that everyone had an awesome 'prayer' day on Thursday! Our church had an all night prayer vigil going on, who ever wanted to come and pray anytime for as long as they liked could come and pray. I went after work at around 10pm and stayed till just after midnight and then went home and prayed some more, it was wonderful!

I would like to add something to my prayer focus.
I of course am praying for my WH to repent before the Lord and that the Lord will open his eyes, I know that the Lord is going to do this. I have only seen my WH 3 times in the last 7 years, as of Nov. 15, I may have spoken to him 5 or 6 times, I'm not sure. Well I know that the Lord is working in his life, just through some of the things the Lord lets me know in my spirit, but the other night I asked the Lord to show me somehow, with a phone call, or something! This is not doubt speaking, just needing to see or hear from him. I miss him. I still have the letter the Lord asked me to write to him telling him about my stand, but have not had clear direction in sending it. So I guess, as I ramble on, I am asking for your prayers to be that my WH would contact me, or that I would hear from someone in his family, or something! This wait is something I expected, but sure is long at times!
Please pray for patience for myself, and continued assurance.
Thankyou and God Bless! Monika

Still....I am praying for you. I know the wait is hard and sometimes unbearable but keep up the faith and God will reward you. God has got to be working on his heart. For some strong reason I believe that God is not done with you yet. He is using you in ways you don't even know about. Lately I have had a couple people come up to me and say " I don't beleive God is done with you and Donna(my wife) yet." I feel the same about you and your husband.

I have a couple praises to tell you about.

The first thing that happened was I went to a Mens Power Lunch that is sponsored by our church. There is a different christian businessman that speaks each month and they give their testimony. This past thursday I got to witness a man get SAVED. It was one of those things that you were so blessed to be a part of.

The second thing that happened was a real blessing for me. During the luncheon the man that is running our singles dept. ask if I could come back to church and meet with him. During our meeting he was telling me the new direction he is praying for God to take the singles dept. It involves a tuesday nite praise and celebration service then breaking up into small groups and having bible study or specialty classes (finance, Experiencing God study, etc.) A church in atlanta is doing this and they have 3,000 singles. It is getting more personal with one another and really ministering to the people.

He told me he was looking for some key people to help do this. He was looking for someone with CHARACTER, CHEMISTRY TO GET ALONG WITH OTHERS, AND INFLUENCE. He told me God kept laying my name on his heart and he wanted me to pray about doing this. He said he had talked with my Sunday school teacher, who is also the senior adult minister,(he is one of my accountability partners who knows about my addiction, affairs, and recovery from them) and he highly recommended me. We have a large church so this is not a small thing that is going to happen.

The reason this is so important to me is when I had hit "Rock Bottom" I didn't have a stitch of " CHARACTER ". My wife told me more than once that I was a man of "NO CHARACTER" and the sad thing was, she was right. July 2001 is when I set out to build myself back up and change. Jan. 2002 is when I started really relying on God and changing who I was and who I wanted to be forever. I started building " CHARACTER ". It says in the bible that God will entrust you with little things and if you serve him well then he will trust you with more and more. I guess this is Gods way of saying "Good job. I am proud of the changes you made in your life and the direction you are going. I want to give you more".

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ November 02, 2002, 10:10 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Nov. 6

From " Power of a Praying Husband"

Her Relationships

Your wife needs friends who build her up and enrich her life, and allow her to do the same for them. She needs trustworthy and faithful companions to talk to, to pray with, to offer help when she needs it, and with whom she can discuss important topics about which you may not have the slightest interest.

Relationships with family members are extremely important and must be covered in prayer as well.

The bible says we should not be "unequally yoked together with unbelievers" (2Corinthians 6:14). This doesn't mean you can't have unbelieving friends, but the relationships that influence you the most should be with people who strive to live God's way.

Forgiveness is Critical

Crucial to any relationship is having and maintaining a forgiving hearts we have to choose to be a forgiving person.

If your wife has any unforgiveness in her heart toward anyone, pray for her to be free of it. If she doesn't get free, it will affect every relationship she has and keep her from becoming all God made her to be.

Prayer

LORD, I pray for (wifes name) to have good, strong, healthy relationships with godly women. May each of these woman add strength to her life and be a strong prayer support for her. Take away any relationship that will not bear good fruit. I also pray for good relationships with all family members. May Your spirit of love and acceptance reign in each one. I pray for a resolution of any uncomfortable in-law relationships for either of us. Show me what I can do or say to make a positive difference. Specifically I pray for my wifes relationship with ( name of friend or family member). Bring reconciliation and restoration where that relationship has broken down.

LORD, I pray that (wifes name) will always be a forgiving person. Even if she doesn't feel like it at the moment, help her to forgive out of obedience to You. Show her that forgiveness doesn't make the other person right, it makes her free. If she has any unforgiveness that she doesn't realize she has, reveal it to her so that she can confess it before You and be released from it. I especially pray that there would be no unforgiveness between us. Enable us to forgive one another quickly and completely. Help us to remember that You, LORD, are the only One who knows the whole story, so we don't have the right to judge. Make my wife a light to her family, friends, co-workers, and community, and may all her relationships be glorifying to You, LORD.

Remember to pray for your own marriages as well as everyone elses. Pray that satan will stop the hold on them.

Love in christ
cajunky

<small>[ November 04, 2002, 09:07 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

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His Temptations

Temptation is everywhere today, and we're fools if we think we or our H's can't be lured by it in some form or another. The Bible says: "The eyes of man are never satisfied." (Proverbs 27:20)
If that's true, temptation is always a possibility and we must be ever watchful. Certain people are tempted by alcohol and drugs, others have a lust for money and power. Still others find food addictions, pornography, or sexual immorality to be irresistible lures. The enemy of our souls knows where our flesh is the weakest and he will put temptations in our paths at our most vulnerable. The question is not whether there will be temptations, it's how we will handle them when they arise.

The Bible says that God does not tempt us. It is our desires that draw us away to what entices us. It is our desires that cause us to sin and bring death into our lives.

If, after all your praying your H still falls into the hands of temptation, do not blame yourself. The decision is ultimately his. He has chosen to walk in the flesh and not in the Spirit. "Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the SPirit against the flesh, and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish." (Gal. 5:16, 17)

NO matter how hopeless it seems when you see him being tempted again, know that God has provided a means of escape and you may be the instrument He will use to help him find it. If there is no temptation problem in your M, be thankful and pray that it stays that way.

PRAYER:
Lord, I pray that You would strengthen my H to resist any temptation that comes his way. Stamp it our of his mind before it ever reaches his heart or personal experience. Lead him not into temptation, but deliver him from evils such as adultery, pornography, drugs, alcohol, food addiction, gambling and perversion. Remove temptation especially in the area of (name specific temptation). Make him strong where he is weak. Help him to rise above anything that erects itself as a stronghold in his life. May he say, "I will set nothing wicked before my eyes. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me." (Ps. 101:3)

Lord, You've said that, Whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down, without walls." (Proverbs 25:28) I pray that (H's name) will not be broken down by the power of evil, but raised up by the power of God. Establish a wal of protection around him. Fill him with Your Holy SPirit and flush out all that is not of You. Help him to take charge over his own spirit and have self-control to resist anything and anyone who becomes a lure. May he "Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good." (Romans 12:9) I pray that he will be repulsed by tempting situations. Give him courage to reject them. Teach him to walk in the Spirit so he will not fulfill the lust of the flesh."
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">SCRIPTURES:
James 1:13-15
I Cor. 10:13
Romans 13:13-14

<small>[ November 03, 2002, 07:08 PM: Message edited by: lupolady ]</small>

Thanks for the encouragement Cajunky~! God is faithful always, even when we are not. As we are faithful to Him, He certainly does reward us!
I'm happy to hear the way He is using you, He will continue to do so!
I am trying to get my physical self into shape,(Dr.s orders) I'm not very good at exercise, but I need to be. I have started walking, and chosing a healthier eating regiment, please pray that the Lord will guide me through this, I have been battling wieght for most of my adult life and have a very difficult time "sticking" to either exercise or eating right.

I again want to thank you for your support in the lives of all of us. I hadn't prayed for my husband for a long time, but find myself doing so much easier now and more often. God Bless and have a great week! Love in Christ, SW

Cant remember who it was that was facing surgery? "Betrayted & Desperate" ? How are the doctors appointments/labs/x-rays going? When is the surgery?
And another who stayed in my mind was a father who's health was not good, caring for his daughters. how are you?

I dont know what to ask for myself. I am SO lost anymore. H in affair 1.5 yrs now. Denies all. Left to file 12/01 came back. No effort seen. left 10/02 again & will file shortly. This time I dont think there will be a dismissal. I have suffered thru alot of mistreatment, screaming & false blame. Accusations of being selfish, drama queen, faking tears etc. And Still, I feel like I still love & miss my H. But I dont want any more anguish.

I wish he'd come back to me with truth & honesty in his heart, a willingness to work on regaining my trust and putting effort into working on our marriage. Maybe even counseling. But deep down, I dont think it'll happen. I cry so much still. I see him as he removes personal items from our house to his new place. He refused to tell me his address and turns blame on me when I say I wish he'd give us a real chance.

I feel SO SO lost. My parents have long been deceased & I have no siblings/other family. HE was my only family for 15 years. We were each others first everything. I am so upset when I stop & think. Try to stay busy working 2 jobs to make ends meet. I dont know what to ask for for myself . . . peace of mind? contentment? discovery of self & confidence? to be shown a path in life & recognize the signs without doubt - I guess thats it. Please squeeze me in your prayers.

I am grateful that my surgery in July found endometriosis & removed just 1 ovary. (They were expecting cancer - in which case I wouldve had a hysterectomy.) I am 38 and not had children yet. I feel like that opportunity has been lost now & its very sad. It wont be with the H I've known 15 yrs & I dont intend to be involved with another for a very long time.

I have been in counseling 1 yr & I take antidepressants. But this time everything is overwhelming & I feel so lost & forsaken. I wish to ask for prayers over this all. Thanks.

<small>[ November 04, 2002, 05:32 PM: Message edited by: AgainstTheWind ]</small>

I'd like to add my name to the list.

My prayer for my wife is private though.

Thanks for the great idea <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Against the wind, I am so sorry that you have to endure so much. Most of us at one time or another have been through exactly what you are going through. So please remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Not only do you have us to help you through this time, but most importantly you have the Lord. He will be your husband, He will provide everything for you. He is so awesome and will give you more than you could ever hope for if you only trust in Him. You need to remember that the enemy is the one in control of your H. His fog is making him act and say the things he does to you. God will get you through this, He will change you and your S. It may not look at all like it will ever happen, but He is at work. Trust Him.
I know exactly what you are going through. But the Lord has changed me, and brought me such peace and contentment in what I do. I also have no children, I am now 46 soon to be 47... I married my H knowing that he didn't want anymore children himself, and although I wanted a child, I gave that idea up, knowing I would be with him the rest of my life, 3 years later, he was gone. You know what the Lord has done for me since then? I am now involved constantly with children, I teach singing, to at least 50 kids a year! They keep me sane, and busy! I love each one as if they were my own. I wish to share a scripture that the Lord has often shown me, I hope it touches your heart as it did mine </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ISA 54:1-6"Sing, O barren woman, you who never bore a child; burst into song, shout for joy, you who were never in labor;
because more are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband," says the LORD. "Enlarge the place of your tent,stretch your tent curtains wide,do not hold back;lengthen your cords, strengthen your stakes. For you will spread out to the right and to the left; your descendants will dispossess nations and settle in their desolate cities. "Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your Maker is your husband--the LORD Almighty is his name--the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The LORD will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit-- a wife who married young, only to be rejected," says your God.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He is everything, and will get you through this!
Please feel free to email me, God Bless, Will be praying for you... Love in Christ, Still Waiting...
monika_withak@yahoo.ca

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Just wondering if we shouldn't have this link moved over to PRAYER instead of DIVORCING?
More people may get involved under the Prayer issue.
Just a thought. God Bless, Monika

Today is the big day. My XW is coming home. I'm hoping she'll be home tonight, but the plan is for tomorrow. She is supposed to talk with the OP tonight. She need our prayers to stick with her heart and come to the man who loves her more than anyone else...ME!

My prayers have been answered. Now she needs hers!

Her post today!

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=008201

Cajunky, It's wonderful to hear how God is working in your life!

MOWL, How wonderful. I almost cried reading your WW's post.

Still & ATW, I relate to your emotions. My H is deep into alcohol and drug addiction. He hasn't worked since moving in with MOW 2 years ago (she hasn't worked either since she shares his addictions, which also include porn and kinky sex).

ATW, I never had children either - partly because of effects from drugs my mother was given during pregnancy, but also from reluctance of my H to make love with me, even while saying he wanted children, even after we'd been to fertility specialists and I'd taken hormone injections for the purpose of getting pregnant... I'm now postmenopausal. Trust in God's will for you. That's all we can do.

LL, I can especially relate to this week's prayer. Thanks.

MOWL,

I hate to be the one to rain on your parade, But what you may not realize is that Wen (by meeting with OM tonight) will be doing one of the hardest things she has ever done in her life.

Tonight, she will be meeting with someone who she thought would be the prince charming of her life. Tonight she will have to admit that he isn't and will have to let go of a fantasy. She will have to let go of a dream she is addicted to. If you've never seen someone try to get free from an addiction, you'll know it isn't easy and probably can't do it by themselves. Unlike a drug (with a passive lure), OM isn't going to be passive. He will try to deceive har into staying. He will try anything to get her to stay. If she goes through with this meeting will she be safe with OM?

My W told me that letting go of OM was like having her best frind die. She mournes for him. She's going through withdrawal. Wen will mourne for OM. Wen will go through withdrawal. She does love OM (she shouldn't but she does). You need to be there to try to understand and help her go through it. You won't need to fix anything, God will. You will need to listen and comfort her. Without LBing! This stuff will be hard for you to accept at first, but knowing it will help you to cope and build your M. She wants to see you strong.

Understand this. The enemy will work hard on destroying what you two are building up. We will be praying for you. You need to be her champion. You need to keep praying for her. All day. Your prayers are being answered. The enemy isn't done yet. Be there for her!

Like I told Wen, Both of you have been in my prayers ever since her first post. The two of you will have a great M. Stay focused on God and Wen's needs. You will be victorious in this.

God's healing and blessing on you.

S&C

<small>[ November 06, 2002, 02:08 PM: Message edited by: steadfast and committed ]</small>

MOWL.....Sounds great!!!! I really did cry when I read your news. I am sooooo happy to hear that a marriage is being restored.

OK prayer warriors.....Lets make it a point to pray several times today and tonite for this situation . We can help defeat satan.

Man...I am smiling ear to ear. I am putting it on prayers answered because I know God is going to see this through.

Like I have been saying...God is the miracle worker. Don't give up even when it looks like all is lost.

Love in Christ
cajunky

I would like to add my name to the list too, please. My sister sent me that book (Power of a Praying Wife) and I just started reading it. I am literally taking notes. Anyway. I am working on me a lot right now, now that H is out on the truck for goodness knows how many weeks. I want to become a prayer warrior. That is a true desire of my heart. What better place to start. Kelli

MOWL,

I'm sorry if my post sounded like I wasn't elated. I do want you to know that I'm very happy about what she's thinking. Any news that moves a M closer to being restored is truely fantastic. We should always celebrate every victory that comes. I hope that messge didn't get lost in my previous post.

Since Wen hasn't moved in yet and she still going to meet with OM, there's still a big battle to fight tonight.

It's great watching miracles happen.

S&C

about the children thing - I do have about 6-10 kids of my friends that I have become quite the "autie" to. I enjoy their innocence & the things they say etc.

More of an issue with me is feeling so lost & forsaken. I dont know who I am anymore or what I am meant to be doing. I wish my H would come back but this time with truth & honesty in his heart, doing whatever it would take to win my trust back and whatever it needs for our marriage to work out and improve. This did not happen last time & I spend the last 10 months in more misery.

I cant let go and I cant move on. I have no intention of doing a singles thing or becoming involved with another for a long time. But I dont feel like going anywhere or doing anything. I see a counselor & take tablets but this cant be helped by that. I have lost most faith because of what Ive been thru. I dont want to go to stores, lose weight (need to?) take care of my looks or do projects around the house. I feel like doing NOTHING. I cant believe my H ever did this to me & still is doing this to me. That he would choose her over me and sacrafice everything he's ever known and all his friends for her! He avoids all our friends anymore & only company he must have is HER. They both behaved badly/wrongly/immorally and hurt many in the process. (she has kid). Why is it that they dont seem to be punished for it???

Meanwhile I really have done NO wrong - no revenge affair, vindictivenss, nothing!! ANd I feel so much like I have been punished this last almost 2 yrs (19 months).

Well, this morning someone walked into my office whom I havent seen before. We got to talking & all this crap came up. She phoned her sister & put me on the phone with her! She started singing "you are so beautiful" except in stead of "to me" she said "to God" etc. SHes been thru D too. Started talking about God having a plan for me etc & wants me to go to their church this weekend. I figure once cant kill me!! She mentioned a passage -
Jeremiah 29:11. I dont know what it says but can look it up later. Do I hear you guys laughing now??

So I guess what I want for myself is to KNOW what I want!! SO many ask me and I have no answers. I want H back but only with truth & honestly & love & willingness to give our marriage the work it needs and I really file like that will never happen. I asked H to promise me not to have contact with OW & he refused bluntly & said hell do whatever he wants whenever he wants, yet denies affair.
I want to recognize the signs put before me ( I guess today was one !!) and know what I should be saying/doing and what direction I should be leaning in. SHOW ME THE WAY !!! and how to do it!

AgainstTheWind,
God is so drawing you to Him. Of all the things you are going through, they are all very familiar feelings being brought to the surface for me.
The only answer for me was, and for you is, let God do what God can do! He is a miracle worker!
The best advice I was ever given was to become the "Holiest Woman" I could become. Well I have come such a long way, although He isn't finished with me yet. The changes are from within, all the feelings of anguish, fear, sorrow, lack of self confidence and so much more, are gone, replaced with confidence, courage, love, joy, and hope! I see that I was feeling exactly as you do many years ago, but God has done such a miracle in my own life. You are in a place that God is so much wanting you to reach to Him. Grab onto the faith you've lost, and never let go. Your life will change, you will have new eyes to see with and new ears to hear with... satan wants to destroy not only your marriage but you. Don't allow him to, resist him. He has already given you all of the negative feelings you have, now is the time to let God turn those feelings into positive ones.
I will keep praying for you, and look forward to seeing the Lord change all the bad stuff to good stuff! God Bless, Love in Christ, SW