Mary, unfortunately, you are right, he has not changed, this is just a scam because he is not getting his way. Hang tough.
Dave

Thanx Dave I will continue to try to stay strong.
It just plays with your head when X calls me Dear,and Babe,and all those pet names he had for me....he said this in our last conversation I posted about..along with all his excuses.

Here's a few of them I'm just venting so bare with me..LOL

I have alot of Feelings,I need to sort out..I don't know whats right for me or who is.I don't think anyone is I think I need a break from everyone....

He left a message today saying he told both ow he needed a break to think.But I don't believe him!

This is not about Love Mary I love you,I just don't want to be stuck back in a loveless marriage.
I don't think now is a good time to try to fix things....i'm not sure though just give me a month!

Love hurts,ask people who have been married 50 yrs,you always hurt the people you love the most
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I want to do whats right for me,I think we are too differant you have problems with me and will never,really trust me again.I don't know if I want to go into counsling I just don't know give me a month.

He is one selfish person,I told him to take as long as he wanted...but I wasn't putting the divorce on hold and to make up his mind,because I'm moving forward without him.I told him no more contact unless he can show for a very long time he can be trusted...and gets help with his issue's.

what a ride it has been.....no more I can't take it Strict plan B now!
I'm writing the letter tonight.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> My H issues is that he never spends time with me or the little guy. He always has to work and then after work instead of coming home he hangs out at his friends houses and waltzes in when he feels like it.

Immature and selfish. It is kind of difficult to work on a marriage when your spouse is never home. I have been keeping tabs on him and tracking him trying to see if he is cheating, but it seems right now that he is just more interested in acting like the single guy able to hang out and play playstation or smoke pot.

Uggh!!! His other huge issue is compulsive lying and blaming like your STBX. He lies about everything under the sun and I have to admit I have zero trust in him. He also tends to be pretty verbal abusive at times when we are arguing. Says horrible things to me and then later denies he said it or acts like nothing happened at all</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Wow they sound alot alike!!!!!!!

LH

As you said these are temporary orders but unless you show cause the time could be increased. On the same note if you show just cause to decrease times then you may have a valid arguement if you have documentation...

I'm writing everything down!! So far on sunday,he tryed to hang out at my place with son...and showed up late....