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Hey F4U! How's it going? I sought you out on this post as you have been especially attentive to my situation... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , TY! Today was interview day...both went well, although my heart wasn't fully into the 2nd as I just finished lunch w/ W and it was not strained but I felt like I needed longer arms <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ...her distance resonated...Her posture and lack of leaning IN said "I'm NOT going to engage in much of anything with YOU", "besides your arms are too short" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...that somewhat sent me into a tail spin...although it became apparent she is still pursuing dv (one "good" thing to come out of our time together). She asked me where the paperwork was that she dropped off to me several weeks ago...I have it at work and will mail and my confession letter tomorrow to her. I asked her for my wedding band and she agreed to "mail" it to me...I will wear it proudly until dv is actually FINAL! I sense her distance and lack of enthusiasm even as friends, that's how short my arms were!! I thought to spend lunch together in between my appointments would be a great time to spend together. The only other time I saw her over the past 3 weeks was on Monday when teh heating element in her hot water tank went. I saw she posted out of frustration about that epsiode and another home catastrophe occurring and thought I would at least leave her a message on her phone to come to my place and shower...she did and we talked abit, things that day went very well...spent time nearly naked in front of one another at one point...I have to confess I was especailly aroused <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...but for a SA that's not a good thing. So I thought today would be a build on, but NOT! I fine with that as I have been doing very well in my OWN PLan A...healing, focusing, recovering, cleansing myself...I AM prepared for dv. What occurred to me as I bounced back from tailspin is that I have tremendous energy and wish to put that into the works GOD has intended for me...Although my W is a christian I emailed her a passage from Ephesians the other day and asked for her thoughts on it and haven't heard a word...isolated moment? Yes, but I somehow get the feeling she isn't walking with the Lord...God willing I would love to witness to her and share the word and get back to a place of spiritual growth that could catapult us to ONE, once again. But her energy isn't THERE....I have to channel my own in another direction...I know the Lord wants that of ME! All that said...didn't close any new career today, however both offered several likeable features and but a few weaknesses for what I'm looking for...God willing I get a second shot with either of them...still networking and have my resume in several hands...Pray for change! God BLess YOU and boys F4U! When will your dv be final? In Christ's Name! <>< <small>[ January 09, 2003, 05:24 PM: Message edited by: catch22222 ]</small>
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Catch2222 - don't want to interfere on your thread. But were you asking me (Faith4me) or someone else? Just asking?
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Glad to hear that the interviews went somewhat well... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Dont forget Catch....you really hurt your wife...she is dealing with allot of pain...it sounds like to me you guys are civil to each other...just continue to show her who you are now...the transformed Husband, the person God wants you to be....remember Catch, right now, stay focused on your personal growth.....and remember God is always in control....I can remember so vividly praying every day for my H to stay with me, for our marriage to survive....the whole time, I was really working on myself, my own personal relationship with Jesus and you know what....at the end of each prayer for my marriage...I would say "your will be done" and I now believe that for me.....saving the marriage wasnt meant to be....so I cling to the knowledge that God certainly is in control and better days are ahead for me......remember you cant control how your wife reacts/responds to you...all you can do is put forth your best effort and pray she is responsive...but remember you do control how you react to how she treats you......so....dont be to hard on her right now....look at her with love in your heart and keep praying....
My divorce....well we have ran into a snag....I had changed something on the final decree for clarification and my H's lawyer didnt like it and so we have a couple of things to work out.....I really think H and OW may be planning a Feb 14th wedding or something and that is why he is pushing for final resolution....I am doing pretty good and my wonderful sons are doing fine....one thing for sure, I have 3 great sons......and they keep me sain and focused.....I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers and you will know Catch if the time comes to give it up.....God will let you know.......listen to him...until then.....just keep hangin on.........
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You're in on this 2, f4m- How was your fire the other night, f4me? I miss the fireplace.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ...oh well. I will be putting myself and boys in financial position to house hunt by mid 2004!! Maybe, we'll get a fireplace! Thanks for the words of wisdom, encourgement and love that you share with me, f4U! It's ALL for the Glory of God's kingdom...I have such a great relationship with Jesus, we're always talking and I listen! I'll keep you all posted on career developments and my M...promise! Where do you both live? I'm in Saratoga Springs, NY...beautiful city...Summer time is awesome, as we have horse racing...although the traffic jams could warrant riding a horse on the sidewalk during that time of year <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Peace and LOVE in Christ! <>< <small>[ January 09, 2003, 07:31 PM: Message edited by: catch22222 ]</small>
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I live in the beautiful state of KY.....race horse country...as a matter of fact I live about 5 minutes from Keenland Race Track which is in Lexington, KY...I live in a small town outside of Lexington....rural community...in the heart of the Bluegrass state....our county has some of the finest race horse farms in the country. Central KY is verry beautiful. Other interesting sites...lots of whiskey distilleries, tobacco farms.....a nice place to live. Queen ELizabeth and President Bush (George) not W visit our county for the horses......that's always fun.....all the streets are closed down....big news for a small town...
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I live in Michigan, about 20 minutes west of the Detroit International Airport. We have horses, kind of neat all you were talking about horses. Kentucky would be a great place to live for our daughter who is really into horses. We have 2 warmbloods (mares), 2 quarterhorses (mares), 1 thoroughbred (gelding), 1 arabian Mare, who gave birth to little Lilly 2 years ago this coming Easter and she is a arabian.
I am interested in horses now, and would love to be a vet. assistant. Would like to work with small animals too.
Glad to see that you will beable to get a house in 2004. Only next year. Good to see your interviews went along nicely.
To have the Lord in our Hearts is the Pot of Gold. That is what I am working on, and giving my life completely to God. That is my Goal in Life right now, to give completely to GOD!!!!!
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HEHEHEHEHEHE! Adds new meaning <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (Horse GRIN)
I love the horses, too! ALthough my favorite species beside the Lord's most prized grifts, his children, are blue whales...I'll be going to Hawaii in August for 1st time...basin for blue's!
I play the horses, one of my vices...however, only when their in town...sometimes OTB!
f4U- Do the boys enjoy the horses? The picture you conjure in my head exhilerates my senses! Distilleries, tobacco farms...WOW! Never been there, sounds beautiful!
F4m, I'll be visiting a friend in March just south of Mich...met him on business this past summer...great guy! Ya know, I have struggled for so long it makes me sick to think about the walk in flesh compared to walking in the spirit...but the 'THINGS', not necessarily in this order, I have found to assist my walk is reading scripture daily, praying, talking to Christ (builidng that personal relationship) and fellowship!! As a christian woman, I know you know all this...as I did...YOU just have to do it...build inventory of people, places and things...cross out what is not edifying in Christ's eyes and add those 'THINGS' that will get you there (through prayer and thought)...just add the TIME to devote to HIM!
God's Blessing's Ladies!
In His ALmighty Name!
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<small>[ January 10, 2003, 10:48 AM: Message edited by: faith4us ]</small>
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I hope you enjoy your trip to Hawaii later in the year....never been there but is on my list of places to visit...once I get fully straightened out, I may plan a trip or two. When do u expect to know anything on the job interviews?
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I was told by one agency that they will be notifying for 2nd interviews in 2-4 weeks...this agency is hiring for an April 1 start date. The other will be notifying 2nd round interviewees within 2 wks. I have another interview scheduled for next wk...networking has been a God send! I know the Lord will open my eyes to the career field that will best suit ME and where I can be productive enough to glorify his kingdom! I'll keep you posted, f4u! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Good morning Catch.....hope you had a good evening....so, your trip to Hawaii.....when are you planning on going. Is this an annual thing you do or just an opportunity to enjoy something you like. Are you going with a group of friends....have a good day now
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Free2Bme....Absolutely nothing going on here other than offering support. Please read the email I sent to you this afternoon. I really am surprised by this post.
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I don't mean to intrude,... ...but catch22222... are you Free2BMe's H? Are you seeking to rebuild your marriage with Free2BMe? ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Jim/NSR
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This does not sound like a typical thread on this site, way to "personal." I don't blame Free2BeMe for being upset.
Maybe you are trying to make her jealous, but I don't think this is a good way to work towards a reconcilation with her.
I don't usually just jump into something with my 2 cents, but this didn't seem right.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faith4us: <strong>Free2Bme....Absolutely nothing going on here other than offering support. Please read the email I sent to you this afternoon. I really am surprised by this post. Take care f4u</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">F4u Thank you for the email clarifying this. I'm sorry I spoke before "talking" with you, but please go back and read the posts you both have to each other (with the capital letters, winks and interest in trips) and see this from my point of view. I may not want to reconcile with catch, but here we are in a wonderful support group and his over zealous interest in others just reminds me of the EAs/PAs and his mode of operation to lure in women. Again, thanks for the clarifying email!! P{lease keep in touch. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> P.S... yes, NSR, catch is my WH! <small>[ January 11, 2003, 03:07 PM: Message edited by: Free2BMe ]</small>
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broken X3....I am not interested in Catch other than to offer him support.....I dont involve myself with EA's online with individuals.........this is nothing more than trying to support someone who says he regrets the treatment he has shown his wife....nothing more...dont make it what it isnt....
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Looks like trouble to me.
Been there....on the recieving end.
EA's start somewhere... usually in innocense.
No Christian evers wakes up in the morning and says..."Think I'll start an affair today".
Think about it.
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Well...I see the tare and feathering is still going on.....you dont know me and you know nothing about me......I havent done anything but offer support....that's all.....and just for the record....I have never had any email contact with Catch22222................ Leave me alone
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