Jacky:

"Yes, he knows that clicketty clack has been married before."

I gotta 'fess out. I STILL picture this shaggy dog, who's owner needs to trim their nails so they don't clatter across the kitchen floor when she comes in through the pet door after midnight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You've been a great help to me in the past. I hope this funk goes away soon. You're a good person.

♥ Qfwfq

((((((((((((Jacky)))))))))))

Thinking of you. Hope the days ahead are better for you. Take joy in your children and peace in the fact that you are a strong, gracious and wonderful person. I admire your strength.

God Bless.

Thanks,

I'm trying, I am trying HARD not to let it get to me. Failing tho, but it will get better with each day; I know this from experience.

I liked Peachy's reply to me in her own thread, about how it won't last since Clicketty Clack has got her wish, the huntress won. (Also like the dog metaphore above) My friend said exactly the same thing to me. Now what excitement is left for them? Dull old married life, routine and the realisation that you have this as your life now and it had better be good. He seems to think it will be.

And try as I might, I WANT it to fail right now...who knows, maybe I will get to complete indifference one day, but not anytime soon.

You know that man always had a real knack for bringing me down when I was doing really well. He did it again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> And I KNOW I shouldn't be letting him influence my feelings, but I just can't help it.

I am seeing the counsellor on Thursday, maybe he can help me sort this out in my mind.

Love and light, and thanks for being here for me,

Jacky

I'm with you Jacky. Just more proof that these are nut cases.

I've found it helpful to "de-personalize" my XW and my former friend. I do not think of them as real people, much less anyone I know. Sometimes, all I have to remember to remind me of the lunacy is that they HAVE to be nuts to remarry. Being married didn't mean anything to them previously, so what does it now represent?

Dear Jacky,
like all the others I can only say: I understand you and am sorry for not being near you to hug you.

Like you know I passed thru this 1+yr ago, but unfortunately I can't say I'm better.
My YD even chose to live with them from last Sept. It seems like OW (or NW=new wife) is more liked than me.
Yes, you're right I AM jellous.
I AM sad cause it had to be him to be with ME fighting agains cancer, WE had to enjoy now when his company became so successful, not THEM. OUR both daughters were supposed to live in OUR house, not only one and his new wife and son......

Yes, you're right I have to stop thinking of him/them and I do for much longer periods now but triggers apper.

Even today when I sent him a birthday message he pi... me all over, finding in my words different meaning. If he is happy why to react so cruel.
Let's see what would happen in ten yrs from now, like f1h0 wrote.

Jacky you are stronger than me and I know you are better now.
At least your kids are with you and you have not to see him/them and hear about him/them every day.

Love
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