I don't know how to contact some members whose last posts seem to have appeared last August. The posts I found thru search were encouraging, but I would like to talk with them, and especially get their husbands view. My husband needs support & information. He would communicate with them however possible. He has what he considers valid issues, & therefore we have a serious relationship problem. It has caused infidelity (or excuses for same) & of course the mind-numbing pain. Don't know how I would have retained my sanity w/o Christ & this site! I would like to hear from Everhopeful, maryb, &/or ktgirl. Of course, we now are aware of all the mistakes we made & our neglect of each other. I am optimistic, and my husband would like to be! I/we need encouragement & support, and I finally think this is the place. Am looking forward to replies. (I'm 12 yrs. older...we've been married for 19 yrs.) Az55Lady<P>------------------<BR>Az55Lady

Hi<BR>I am not any of those people you referred to but.... You say he has valid issues. Can we ask what they are? I don't understand if you are saying the age difference is the problem or not. I was in a relationship where I was 12 years older than the guy. We did not stay together but I don't think the age difference has anything to do with it. <P>He always seems older than his years and I am always thought to be younger. We had other problems.<BR>didi

Hi Didi Thanks for your quick response. My H considers his greatest problem to be extremely sensitive and has for a long time. That is why we're hoping to contact the H in a marriage relationship similar to ours. The age difference does play an important part in how he relates to me.I am uncomfortable with quoting him. I am hoping, tho, that he will respond thru email or whatever private means are available on this site. He has indicated that he would like to talk with someone in his position on a private level. There are times when my H seems older than me, also! Other problems did contribute to our present situation...especially poor communication. We just never faced this issue at all until a few months ago. <P><BR> <P>------------------<BR>Az55Lady

Az55Lady,<P>I think if you move this topic under the "Emotional Needs" you will get more responses. Probably more than you want! I would look for GSN, ilmf, HH (Happy Husband), FaithHopeLove, Karenna, and seekingjoy. They are really good, and have been on this site for a long time. I consider them the "old timers."

Dear HaloHeart, Thank you for taking the time to reply. You confirm what I thought might be the better place. However, since I found posts from the people I was hoping to contact in "other topics", I posted there also. I agree I should move to E.N. & will do so. Thanks again, <P>------------------<BR>Az55Lady