HI ALL!

I signed up for one of these dating services that operate via cellphone, and after a few hilarious voice messages, hooked up with someone I thought I could talk to. Seems to have worked out exceptionally well, we can yack and yack for hours on end, but it's fast approaching a time when we just have to meet. Needless to say, I'm scared stiff.

Not only never having done this kind of thing, which is not really an issue, since I trust completely who she is, just totally not ready for rejection of any sort, know what I mean? I'm now really having to decide whether to risk it all, throw caution to the wind, that kind of thing, or to let this very satisfying phone relationship carry on for a while longer. We have the greatest fun ever, talking & talking. Why ruin it by meeting??

She is the kind of person I would just HAVE to have as friend, at the very least, but I find her attractive enough to want to have more than that, is the problem.

So I ask: who here has done this kind of thing and gone ahead with a meeting--- did you send a photo 1st? did you just go out and brave it? I wanna hear the stories.
C'mon. and advice...
muzohead

Muzohead - well if you are that nervous - that ask for a picture -but if she isn't what you like or vice versa - are you two going to stop talking to each other ??? I mean I talk to alot of people on line - I am not ready to meet any of them yet - because I am not looking for that relationship yet.. But is it important what someone looks like ??? I say go for it if you want to meet somone that you are already friends with - and remember you can always stay friends afterwards.... Right????

Dude, I'm betting she's just as scared and unsure of herself as you are. Just lighten up and be yourself - after all, that's what she's going to see after awhile anyway.
Go out, have a good time, and stop worrying! This is supposed to be fun, my Friend.
Go have some fun!!!
Harold

Lighten up and reframe it. Think that you are meeting an MB friend, not your future life mate.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself or her.
Consider that you are enlarging your circle of friends. Sometimes photos don't give you a true picture of a person.
Meet at a public place, restaurant or mall for safety.

Well, here's the thing, I found out of course, that she IS as nervous as I am, and we exchanged insecurities.
Anyway, I told her that I was too old to let stuff like that put me off, life is short, and that I would go ahead and jump in with both feet.
The truth is, we like each other so much by phone, it's hard to imagine it won't go further. At this stage, not meeting is killing both of us, and its something we need to do, there's nowhere else to go from here on.

MAW64
Turns out she's sounds a lot more nervous about meeting than I am
No, its not important how she looks (she was going to send a photo by e-mail, but I stopped her ). She says she doesn't photograph well (ditto for me), but I like her so much already, there's actually no way I can be disappointed in person.Sounds strange, I know, but its true. She's told me she's afraid after talking, I might expect to see all of this in a "neat little package", and so be disappointed.

TNBD:
No doubt we will have fun- none whatsoever. I think we're just so much on the same plane with each other ( we more than like each other), hence the nervousness.

So we're meeting tomorrow. Hold thumbs.
muzohead

Well, here's the thing, I found out of course, that she IS as nervous as I am, and we exchanged insecurities.
Anyway, I told her that I was too old to let stuff like that put me off, life is short, and that I would go ahead and jump in with both feet.
The truth is, we like each other so much by phone, it's hard to imagine it won't go further. At this stage, not meeting is killing both of us, and its something we need to do, there's nowhere else to go from here on.

MAW64
Turns out she's sounds a lot more nervous about meeting than I am
No, its not important how she looks (she was going to send a photo by e-mail, but I stopped her ). She says she doesn't photograph well (ditto for me), but I like her so much already, there's actually no way I can be disappointed in person.Sounds strange, I know, but its true. She's told me she's afraid after talking, I might expect to see all of this in a "neat little package", and so be disappointed.

TNBD:
No doubt we will have fun- none whatsoever. I think we're just so much on the same plane with each other ( we more than like each other), hence the nervousness.

So we're meeting tomorrow. Hold thumbs.
muzohead

Rock N Roll, Dude! Sounds like you just may - just may have met your SOULMATE... Time will tell - relax and have a good time and be yourself and...
everything will turn out A-OK!!!!!
Best of luck in love and friendship.
Harold

hey muzo!

Go out, meet her (again, public place is best), and go from there. If you guys are talking the way you seem to be, you've got more than half of the tough stuff behind you. Nervous is good... how long has it been since you felt that way about meeting someone? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Have fun!

lori <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi All!

WOW! All went totally better than expected- after the initial shock of trying to marry the voice with the personal presence. Both of us as it turns out had exactly the same approach to the thing, that is, get it over with, jump in, and yeah, what can I say, it was great!

So, thanks for the input guys, and the moral support.

Bangarra:
This is probably the most exciting thing I've done in a while- totally different feel about it, and it was good, yeah

TNbddude:
Rock & roll indeed! She tells me afterwards she really wanted more touching, ( i adjusted her collar), but no goodnight kiss or hug- I just didn't feel as if I could / should. Anyway, next date is firm- wish us luck!

MAW & NEWLY:
The nervousness stemmed from the fact that I really liked her a LOT on the phone alone- (same for her), which was a first for me. The meeting only confirmed this. Slowly-slowly from here on!

muzohead