Revised plan after meeting with lawyer.

H. Fence Sitter was right. My attorney said it would be unlikely my h. would leave the house after I’ve filed. So, the new and improved plan goes like this.

“Sweetie Pie, I’ve tried to make this work. But, we still don’t have a plan on how we’re going to restore romantic love and blissful harmony to our life together. I see no indication that there will be a plan, nor do I have faith that you’d implement said plan in a timely manner.”

“Because I would still like this marriage to work out, I’m making this last offer to you. Move out immediately, allowing me to heal and to protect my love for from further damage. If you want to continue working with Steve, I’d love to do so while we’re separated. Should you chose not to take this offer, I will have to take action.”

All of which will be said in an appt. w/ Steve, provided he agrees.

I’ve got a solo appt. with Steve tomorrow and will naturally discuss this with him.

Gosh, can you believe it? A lawyer who is basically supporting Plan B? Of course, getting B. out of the house allows the living-separate-and-apart clock to start ticking.

K-- I'll use your tranision in the letter. I'm thinking verbal and a written statement. See above post.

Newly -- Steve has said to be vague about the reasons why. It avoids an arguement and gives the other person no footholds to manipulate you into a defensive position. I'm sure your husband was as much of a master manipulator as my husband is. Of course, I told my mother that I prefer to think of it as giving him the benefit of the doubt rather than as being manipulated. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Even so, there comes a time when all doubt is erased.

GG,
I am sorry it has had to come to this, but he made his choice. You said that you do not want to hurt him, but you cannot avoid this. Again, he made the choice to bring this on himself, so don't go off on a guilt trip. As a man reading you letter I felt that it was too soft. I know you want to be gracious, but it sounds like an easy break up letter, not a letter leading to divorce. But you know him best, so do what you believe to br right. Praying for you.

Rich