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My husband has decided he would like to attend medical school. He is the sole breadwinner of the family and at our age in life we would be starting over again at 40. I want to support him but feel that he is being selfish at the same time. How can I get through this period of schooling and live with the fact that I might not have a child until i'm 39?
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Be as supportive as you can. He may get to med school and decide he doesn't like it or can't hack it but he'll kick himself later in life if he never gives it a chance and he could blame you for that and harbor some resentment.<BR>If you need to, get a job to help him out.<BR>Having a baby later in life isn't so bad. I had my last two in my 30's and I think I was better prepared. I had my first in my early 20s and although I loved being a mom, and still do, I didn't realize all that I would have to give up. In my 30's I was more ready to deal with the sacrafices of motherhood cuz I had lived longer and done more.<BR>So, try to support him, I would think this act of unselfishenss on your part would be so greatly appreciated by him and can benefit you both in the long run.
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It sounds like you two dod not use the Policy of Joint Agreement (POJA) in this situation. Did you? If you don't know what this means please read through this site. In a nut shell it says that neither of you should ever do anything that does not have the enthusiastic support of the other. This is a huge decision that will have major implications in your relationship.<P>On the positive side...I sort of did the same thing your husband wants to do though I was younger. You guys need to talk this through more!<P>Mud
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