OK, weird stuff once again.

If there has been a wage garnishment against an employer, and that employer does not pay, isn't that a federal crime?

Think my ex is back to playing games again, but he is getting his employer mixed up in it.

Lori

The employer is supposed to comply, and most do, they just dont always follow the order to the letter, my boss sent mine in monthly even though is said weekly,they never said anything to him, my EX would scream to probation about it, but they had so many nonpaying orders to chase they said be happy it comes at all and stop bugging us.
many times support problems are at the probation end, NOt the payor end, your dealing with STATE EMPLOYEES here, if there's a holiday, that one day backs your support check up a week, trust me, its true.State employees dont care how long your check sits in the OUT bin, at 4;30 they charge to the time clock and YOU WAIT.

fortyone,

I have called DCSS, since ex's employer was wage garnished, they managed to pay one check on the 8th (due the 1st) and there has been no payment for the 15th done yet. The company is liable for contempt. I notified the president of the company that my ex is now involving the company in his little games. The first time was when he cancelled my health insurance in February when the judgement still has not been agreed upon nor signed.

This man has had absolutely no regard for his children, is a perfect example of doing the divorce checklist for men that was posted (he had been planning his divorce for 2.5 years until he was financially set to do the best he could to destroy me), was definitely physically and emotionally abusive to my daughters, looks like sexually abusive to the older one, was emotionally and mentally abusive to me for years, and spent 3 years trying to completely destroy me. He doesn't give a hoot about the girls, his 'god' is money and his all important "image".

I'm tired of having to fight for every right of my children and myself. No, I don't depend on a government agency to do things for me. I have absolutely no faith in them, the justice system or anything else that has to do with trying to make my ex do what he is supposed to. My ex is a total jerk and I only hope that someday he gets a fraction of what he has done to the girls and I back. He isn't a man, he is someone who feeds off pain and others misfortune. If there isn't enough around him, he beat up on the neighbor boys so he can laugh at them when they cry.

Lori

You have all the rights in this case, but you have to go through the process to get it done,even though the system tends to favor your situation they dont do anything untill the papers get filed. In my state it would only take one call to start the process with support issues, but their all different. Dont get me wrong I dont condone what you have been through, and i wish you the best, My EX , the woman, did all she could do to wreck ME with no reguard for the kids too, snd she had custody, it happens on both sides. Keep calling your state workers, sooner or later you will get what you need. best of luck.

My exw has always gotten the child support on time and I have all the checks to prove it . She got mad at me one day for something and called child support recovery and turn me over to them saying that I had not paid her. They contacted me ans told me to start paying threw them. I called the exw and asked why she did that and she just laughed. So i started paying them and let them pay her, now she gets checks that are due on the 1st sometime around the 20th.. I think it is funny she tried to get me in trouble but all it did was make her wait on the check.

Lori, Im not sure im familiar with your story..is this a new screen name for you?

Smiles,
Dawn

NEED, mine did the same thing, i paid her direct, and i always paid, one time we had a dispute, so i didnt pay her, she was denying me visitation,and putting the kids in the middle, so i held the check two weeks. after that she " fixed my a$$" {her words}, she got an order, now she gets the checks late all the time, she likes to bully everyone about it, she's harrassed probation, and my employers, {in NJ probation handles support money issues} now she wants direct pay back and the state refuses to stop the order!! looks like she " fixed" things real good! because of her order I have a standing LIEN on my assets, every time I need a loan I have issues with the lien, the state runs behind posting my account, so i always appear in arrears, i'm not, its direct withdraw, so i have to fight the state or pay ahead to lift the lien quickly, all thanks to lazy state workers and a dinasar system. My best advise to anyone in a divorce is to NOT involve the state if things are somewhat stable and civil, once you involve big brother he dont let go, and it gives him total say and controll.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by fortyone:
<strong>The employer is supposed to comply, and most do, they just dont always follow the order to the letter, my boss sent mine in monthly even though is said weekly,they never said anything to him, my EX would scream to probation about it, but they had so many nonpaying orders to chase they said be happy it comes at all and stop bugging us.
many times support problems are at the probation end, NOt the payor end, your dealing with STATE EMPLOYEES here, if there's a holiday, that one day backs your support check up a week, trust me, its true.State employees dont care how long your check sits in the OUT bin, at 4;30 they charge to the time clock and YOU WAIT.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you have any idea how asinine that statement was?

sunrise1,

Nope it is the same name I began posting here with in Aug of 2000. Guess the story is so old that it is lost. Hmm... wouldn't it be nice if ex could be lost so easily??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Every now and then I get so busy that life gets in the way and I didn't do a lot of posting. I also went through a time of total despair that I didn't feel I could have posted anything worthwhile anyway.

Lori

Lori, Id like to contact you. Please send me your email address.

Smiles,
Dawn

Dawn,

Sent you my email addy, thanks. I had a great call from exes President of the Board yesterday. He was out of town and will certainly look into why I wasn't sent a check. He also said that the office manager said it was a glitch on teh cancelling of teh insurance, so I straightened him out on that little detail. That the company (meaning ex and office manager (one of his bimbos) CANCELLED my insurance and the insurance company would not reinstate me until the company called them back. That it was illegal because we did not have a signed judgment on the divorce.

I also mentioned that I was frankly tired of always having to chase down what was rightfully my children and my court ordered support. I also told him about older daughter in residential therapy because of the physical abuse. The guy's wife is an attorney in the largest firm in our area and has a building named after her for child abuse programs!

Now I am getting ready to go in and argue with one attorney firm about payments. They are threatening collection agency. I am going to tell them that they can either take what I can pay them, or I will have to go bankrupt and they will get nothing. I ended up with nothing from their services, anyway. The way my case was handled turned into an absolute travesty... my kids are not safe, because I was told not to go to police when things happened, I no longer have enough evidence to convict ex on child abuse, exes attorney added in wording that my attorney overlooked and my children can potentially be placed in harm's way because of it. When we had proof of perjury, contempt of court, etc, my attorney did NOTHING. I was forced to constantly give in for the three past years. Yes, the ex has darn near done what he intended... totally destroy me, and my attorney helped him do it.

I am very angry about the whole situation right now, but that may be keeping me from just totally giving up again.

Lori