Some of you may remember the previous post (on the 2nd page if you need refreshing)'new here and need some help'
Anyway........
My husband told me again that he realizes what he is doing and it is not right, etc. (blah, blah, blah) and he told me that he was done with it and he was quitting, I told him that was good and that he should quit if he wants a life with me. I also told him that if he ever wanted trust in our marriage again that he has to be honest with me. and he said that he would be honest.
He quit for two days and I asked him today when he called if he had smoked and he lied at first and then quickly told me the truth.
So, my question is this..... what do i do now? He knows that he has to quit to have a relationship with me but still has not quit. But, on the other hand he was honest (in a way)
****Please put yourself in my shoes a min****
Does he just not care if he is with me or not?

Thanks

hi I am sorry your husband is like this.

he does not care because the pot makes people
not care about things, plus it makes them
paranoid, and some people hallucinate from it depending on how strong it is or what they soak it in, or put on it.

he has a drug problem, he loves the pot right now.
Like an alcoholic they will do what they need to get it and they will lie to you and promise you anything.they will tell you what you want to hear.

sometimes when they are not using, they will make promises they think they can keep, but then the craving hits and all goes out the window..

I think you need to tell him enough is enough and that when he is ready he needs to go to a rehab center, he seems not to be able to stop on his own.

I was wondering does he go to parties where groups of people smoke?
is this the only drug he uses?

you do know if your with him when he is caught you get in trouble too?

the state I live in if they find it in your home they can take your home. same with the car they take you to jail and confiscate your car..
same coming across the border they have dogs that sniff the cars and if the dogs act suspicious then the border patrol tears your car apart and I mean apart they take off door panels etc.

I know someone who lost her car cause a friend had some in her car enough that she hid it and the other girls didn't know they all got arrested. and the car was taken..

I think you need to realize that pot does damage and you probaly won't get pregnant as it makes hubby have a lower sperm count.

plus smoking it like alcohol changes a personality
makes them nasty people and most people they hang around with do coke or heroin..
please get away from him...run...when he is clean then work things out. if you can wait that long some people get into that lifestyle and it can take 5 to 20 years and it is a gateway into stronger drugs..
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> God bless you and you keep on keeping on!!

He keeps up smoking the dope, he's going to be a 'Man In Orange' and you will probably be able to see him during Visitation Hours...
Harold

Thand You for the replies
To answer your questions
- he does not go to parties and I really think that marijuana is all that he is doing

He is 30 and has used since he was 16. That is a long time i know. I refuse to live with him and he just dont get it, he does not think mj is bad and he thinks i am totally crazy for making a issue of it. I guess the thing that bothers me the most is that we were both in church when he quit and we loved it and really got involved in church and then he started smoking again while we were going to church and everything has fallen apart since then. I dont take god or church as a joke and it seems as if he has.
To me..... if a man loves his wife he wants to make her happy ot try to atleast.
Also, he says that he does not have a problem with it and he can quit anytime. I would never be able to talk him into getting help.