My wife and i are splitting up and I really wonder if she's telling them the whole truth or her twisted version of it??
Along with her mental issues that were killing me and keeping the home in constant stress she was hiding important issues about her mentally ill son from me, i found out by taping the phone, I really liked her family and now i fear she's making me look really bad by not telling the truth about my decision, I think they have eyes and can read between the lines on some issues, but my wife was guarding lots of secrets about her and her son's mental status, and most of her family are in other states, she would kill her self to clean and put up a good front before they would visit, but the house never looked like they saw it, I want so bad to contact them and make my side known, but part of me says that looks tacky,but lots of stuff will never come out unless i spill the beans, SHE SAYS they all think i'm a jerk for digging so deep for the truth, but I tend to not buy that,I would think they all would have wanted the straight scoop from THEIR partners.....
Last year i had a long talk with her dad without her and i addressed several of my concerns about her mental status and her problems and he seemed to not want to get involved, I was really grabbing at straws asking him at all becaues i was out of solutions, If it were my kids I would have at least had to ask some questions, but he steered clear.
would you all attempt to contact her family or just leave it be and hope they somehow get the truth someday?? My daughter will someday be able to defend me but thats years away. any thoughts??