Interesting stuff is happening to good ol' Dippy ex. Just heard from someone who is sort of in the same field of work, different line of it, though. Mr Dippy, the extreme NPD man of the year, has totally trashed his reputation and credibility throughout this county, and maybe even statewide. The man that spent 3 years trying to bankrupt and ruin me emotionally, professionally and mentally is hanging together by some thread and his own arrogance.

My kids are doing great and I am finally able to focus more on work and life seems to be going along at warp speed (meaning there is always too much to do that I am having to deal with prioritizing stuff first... triage of life, I suppose). I'm coming up on having no kids for a month as the younger one is going to my parents and the older is still in residential therapy. I'm hoping I can do a bit of soul searching and cleansing during that time and come out ready to tackle all the house stuff (have some work to do as it's 38 years old) as well as finish up old business stuff and begin growing.

I'm starting to get excited about the prospects out there and without any advertising at all, I managed to grow 400% the last year even with all the crap Dippy was throwing at me. I think I am starting to grow past all the emotional abuse and am realizing that I'm doing OK, that I do have a lot of contacts and friends and my work speaks for itself in the referrals that have been done. I talked to my D this evening and explained that working for yourself meant weird hours, days and schedules for a while, but eventually we will be able to take a vacation again. It's all starting to sink in that the girls and I SURVIVED!

We will continue to heal, to grow, to learn and live. Dippy will continue in the quagmire he has made for himself with his own choices, but he is totally separate from us. I think, knowing that he has destroyed himself, I can now relax and move on with the girls and my lives. For so long I had heard how everyone knew Dippy, that he was a big mucky-muck, and I was little ms nobody who no one liked and they only spoke to me cause I was married to him. The truth is finally out there so everyone can see... I will probably always be a little reserved around others because of what I came to believe, but at least I finally know that Dippy's true persona is known by many.

So is this my big "let it go" moment? I can't say as I am thrilled about the news, but I sure feel a lot of relief. For so long this man kept on seeming like he was getting away with all sorts of things, I think I am just content hearing it isn't all so wonderful in his world. What goes around does come around, and I was given the chance to see (well, hear about it, anyway) it happen.

peachy, Jethro's wheel is turning. Faith4me, SNL will have his rotate round, too. Mike and Bill are both right in that God picks his time, the waiting is the hard part.

Lori

I don't know as I can say that anything has "come around" to my ex, other than the fact that he's still living with his parents after *temporarily* moving in with them in December 2000, although he bought me out of the dump we were living in. I guess that says enough for itself.

I was one of the lucky ones in that MY life turned around almost immediately after leaving my ex. I had a lot of people praying for me and the support of friends and family, which helped immensely. All these people that my ex had told me time and time again had turned their back on me, was only because I was hiding my 'real' marriage from them.

I will send up prayers for everyone suffering on this board tonight.

Lori,

You sound so strong!!! You did it!! You and the girls made it through!!!! Look at the example that you are setting for them, that is awesome!!! You have overcome so much, and have grown as a person, you have come out the winner, not because of what is happening to Dippy, but because you overcame what Dippy is doing and has done to you!!!

God's time is God's time and some times it is so hard to sit and wait!!! I've known all along that all of this is going to come back and bit x in the butt!! God will do it when I am not looking!!! You give us all hope that it does happen!!!

Take care and have a fantastic Friday and weekend, I too will be childless as YD is going to dad's for a month and the other 2 are never around or moving out I am not sure anymore!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks Princess and Dawn,

I do feel good. Spent the weekend goofing about with my daughter before she heads off for a month. We got 3 ducklings and that has made for a lot of laughter over the past few days.

I also met with my daughter's counselor on Friday and he stated he certainly hopes Dippy decides to just back off and leave the custody stuff alone. He sees how well we are doing and with the past history, we just want to continue growing. My older daughter just switched to a woman therapist and they all think she may begin opening up more about exactly what abuse Dippy did.

Me, been too busy to get to Domestic Violence Support Group, and no insurance so no private counseling, but I seem to be starting to heal now. 3 years of all of this turmoil; it's been nice to sort of coast for a bit.

Trying to fix a water line break to the kitchen, going to have to help my old dog cross the Bridge on Wednesday (it is his time), and I'm still looking ahead rather than dwelling on it all. Life keeps things interesting.

lori