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This is my first time to post a message here. I have been divorced since February. WH left when our little girl was only 4 months old for an older woman. He has been with her ever since the day he moved out of our home that we had recently built. People have told me that it is really common for men to have affairs during their wife's pregnancy. I am hoping that is not that common. Has this happened to anyone else? We had been married for 9 years and had waited to have a baby for a long time. None of it really makes sense but I have moved on and my little girl is such a blessing in my life. My ex seems to have walked out and moved on with no regrets or anything. How does someone do this with such ease and act like we were never married or anything? Any advice would be nice. Thanks!
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You are better off w/o him. It hurts and you have a million questions, but go see a counselor. Think of it like this.... You may never know why, but you can get insight into the personality type and get your arms around the person you married. Also, your WH will wake up one day and want to be a part of his daughters life(this always happens) You must do what you need to do to protect yourself and your daaughter.
My WW is still in denial. I had a million questions and I went to a counselor and it helped a ton. I want the truth from my WW, but I may never get it. I am moving on with my life.
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Laurensmom,
^^^^Bump ^^^^
Welcome to MB. Sorry to see you here but you've come to a good place. There are people here that have been in your situation and understand how you feel.
Sorry I don't have any advice for you but I'm sure some one will. Just give them time.
And don't worry about fff for now. He's in a lot of pain and is working on his own situation. He'll be better in time.
Bless you.
S&C
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I saw the title of your thread and wanted you to know I've said those same words. I imagine almost everyone here has said them to. It doesn't make your life easier but you can be sure you are not alone in having those thoughts.
I don't know who took my x's other self away. But it left and, in all these years, it's never returned. Sometimes they come to their senses and sometimes they don't.
I wish I had more advice to offer. But I don't. I just wanted to let you know many others have those same thoughts.
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Hi Laurensmom28,
Do you think your husband was jealous of the baby? I know it sounds so immature, but it happens. My husband was definitely jealous of the baby, our 1 yr old. He wasn't getting all the attention any more. For you, your husband had you 9 yrs all to himself. But what a cruel thing to do to you and that baby. It's been done to me too. And it double hurts because it's right when it should be one of the happiest times in your life. Men can be such babies, I'm serious!!!!!
Sent with Love, Ladysheep
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