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Do you think this is a legitimate fear?<P>And also do you think that could be one of the reasons there are so many of us on this BB with similar stories?<P>If it is the case, what can us spouses do to protect our marriages?
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by fishlady:<BR><B>Do you think this is a legitimate fear?<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Can you clarify your question?<BR>If you are asking is a commitment phobia a real fear - Answer is YEP - in my book - I am terrified to commit and end up with the same nightmare I had last time. Thought it was right, committed before God - and after 7 years it was a complete nightmare and I hung in there for 5 more years of total misery because of the commitment to God. I didn't committ lightly then and it's 10x more serious to do this time. - TERRIFIED OF IT!!!!!<BR>
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I'm not really sure of what my question is trying to get at.<P>The book described these individuals as people who have a genuine fear. Panic attacks, anxiety, the urge to run as far away as possible. Some of these people were so afraid of commiting that they never even wrote in pen, so as not to be held to their word.<P>My H sounds like one of these people. He wants a loving relationship but doesn't understand why he can't do it. He has run in past relationships, usually when things were good. That's what he did with me. He started thinking about things and it just snowballed into this huge mess.<P>Is it possible to overcome this? And what is it about commitment that frightens so many people away? How many other people on this board feel this way or think their spouse feels this way and that is what is causing the problems?
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