I need some advice. My husband and Ihave been married for 1 year and together for 12 years. I found out 2 days ago, when checking old voicemail messages, that he had apparently called several escorts/prostitues, whenI was out of town. The messages were from escorts and returning his calls. I asked him about the calls, and he said he wanted to be honest, and he did call those women. His friends gave him the numbers, as they have been with these women and always have told him he should "treat himself," at least once. When I asked why, he said he has felt really closed in recently with a job he doesn't like, us wanting to have kids, and has felt that I don't enjoy sex as freqently or as much as he likes. He said he realizes this is no excuse for calling and really does not know why and feels horrible and that he has ruined our trust.<P>Today, I found the cell phone bill, and there are nubmers for prostitues he called on two different nights. ON the second night, after a series of calls to one woman, there is a call to a taxi cab company about 1 hour and 25 minutes later. The cab call was about 3:45am,and he has a reliable car. I don't know what to do. He told me he was not with these women,and becasue I love him, I believed him, but now I do not know. He cried and seems so sad and feels guilty, but I fear he might have lied and beenwith the person.<BR>Please let me know what you think.<BR>

Sorry no one has responded to you yet. It seems there is a much better response in the Emotional Needs section. You might want to post your question there. You certainly have an emotional need for honesty and trust... I hope someone there can give you some advice. Good luck.

I am so sorry. This is just my opinion but the fact that there were several calls and then the cab call too makes me think the worst. Cheating is never ok but a prostitute is not just cheating. Is he trying to get you both killed? I'd would definantly call my doctor for a thurough check up.