OK ... how can you show love and fill up their love tanks, when they keep refusing it?
At the moment, we're suppose to separate any day now ... when the tax returns come in. I still love him, but he tells me he doesn't love me anymore. Lots to tell, but I'm trying very hard to show him love and give him his needs, but he just keeps putting up a COLD wall, and treating me very badly. It's as if it's gone too far, and he can't (won't?) come back.
I know I've hurt him with words and yelling, but I've apologized over and over. Yes, I still slip up now and then .. but I always say I'm sorry immediately. I've gone out of my way to show him love ... even though I'm not feeling all that well lately, I still offer him sex daily, all though he won't accept it much anymore. I've gone the route of trying to see if he's having an affair of any kind ... but there's no proof or really not any signs.
What happens when you get to the point of wanting to give up trying, yet you still love them and don't want a divorce? He agreed to just a separation, but then he wants to 'live' as if divorced during that time .. so what good is that?
I'm tired .... but I love him. Even saying good morning to him, he scowls at me ... and when I nicely tell him that I get hurt when he scowls, and I'd appreciate a smile instead, he gets MAD!
When I try to hug him now, he stiffens up. When I try to talk to him in the van, he just answers and then the conversation dies.
What gives?
I don't know what to do ...
Suggestions?
Thanks,
Hugs,
Dee
