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Today is the day my W signs our divorce agreement. On 3-4-04, I moved back home after she jerked my guilt choke chain and wanted to try to reconcile. She had been sleeping with her OM while I was moving on with another woman. She decided that here OM wasn't what she wanted and jerked me back home.
I decided on Friday that this chain jerking wasn't going to work again and insturcted my attorney to contact het attorney to request the signature.
Now W says I OWE her another chance (by the way, this would have been #8)and I should put her latest adventures behind me as well as my new friend and 'make it work'. She literally tore me into shreds this weekend because I refused to change my mind. Now I'm back to being the hurtful man and a *&(^%$#)@ among other things. She says she is scared to death of being alone and I should stay with her to take care of her the rest of our lives. I OWE HER...
I'm sorry, but after 3 years of WWIII on BOTH sides, I am raising the white flag.
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I am sorry. But you know when it's enough. She's busted your LB time and again. I know when it was when myself, I hit that point.
Prayers for peace.
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Must be something in the air... stbx husband is singing the same tired tune: "I don't want to get divorced, I just know I'm never going to be what you need and you're never going to be what I need... but could your spend the rest of your life trying?"
That wouldn't even be so bad if there were ANY indication he'd try to. But he won't ~ he refuses to listen and (this is not a vent) I tell ya, I think if he couldn't be the martyr, he'd DIE. His mantra in life: Life sucks and then you die, why don't you be as miserable as I am, too???
I'm sorry; I'm not doing that to myself nor my children for the next twenty years. Marriage is a partnership; it takes two: in your case, it sounds like she, too, wants a free ride on YOUR broken back.
Good for you for standing firm.
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