My wife and I have been separated 2 years this past January. She became involved with a manager in her work group last year with whom she's had a friendship with for a couple of years. This her 2nd relationship during our time apart - though this one appears to have been serious with talks of a life together and children. I have also been involved with a woman during this time as well. In an act of obedience to the Lord I put that relationship in it's proper place and I suspected that my wife, while verbalizing she was waiting for me to assumed my place to reconcile our relationship, was also involved. I found out about her latest relationship in January. After a week of discussions we to a step of faith and reconciled in obedience to what we both felt God wanted. We agreed that her continuing to work in with him might be too much to endure and so she handed her resignation with the understanding that she could look for something that was less stressful and that she liked - in time. The reconcilation lasted a week - I expressed my fears and apprehension and she moved back to her apartment - and now she was out of work. She had still been in contact with the other man as to what was going with us and the following week took a planned vacation to Disney with him and her daughter who's eight years old - as "Friends". Since this time she and her daughter have been spending alot of time with him. In conversation with her she told me "Not to think of each other as a spouse", "We're not even friends"
"We shouldn't even consider this a marriage",
"Wants to regain her trust for me as a friend"
"Realizes we do have a history and feelings
and it's hard not to think about each other as
husband & wife"
She said that she was still open to discussing reconcilation but that if it meant moving back in immediately, she'd rather divorce. I felt that if it extended beyond February, that I couldn't see it working out. In the iterim, since she's not working, I have supported her financially as I said I would beginning with the month of March. $1500.00 plus the car note and it's insurance. She since has said she's done with me and as April rolls along, I don't know if I should continue to provide support, let her "friend" provide for her or give her that opportunity as she put it to go to court and get alot more.

Looks like her and the OM just got back from a trip

Eeeks. A reconciliation that lasts a week?
She quit her job so as not to be in contact with OM but went on vacation with him?
Raymond, I think there was something else going on, and briefly reconciliation fit into her needs.
I suggest you tell her that financial support was contingent on you two reconciling.
Then, go check with your lawyer. I think you’ll need to pay the support in April, but maybe that’s all. However, you want to get legal opinion so that you don’t accidentally screw yourself.

I gave her a call today and she told me she received a job offer and she's accepting. The conversation was sort of cordial. I offered to stop by and drop a check off - though she just asked me to drop it in the mailbox as opposed to coming out and meeting me. I invited her to lunch and she said she'd give me a call on Thursday if she's able, though I really don't expect her to. I expressed to her that it was really nice to speak with her. She has stopped going to the church we attended together and said that she was visiting a few but wouldn't elaborate. I felt good about the call in the sense that it was civil. I don't feel we'll have too many interactions giving all that has transpired but I do realize that I need time to heal from the emotional connection I still feel toward her