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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What an idiot I married. (It doesn't count as an LB unless you actually say this to the person - does it? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, it doesn't count when it is put in cyber land or with people that dont have any vested interest in the people involved.

But it does count when it is said to people that know both parties, and it will put them in an ackward position of feeling like they have to take side's and some just dont want to do that.

And then some will take a side and play a game, it get's really nasty after that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Good Point.
We no longer have "common" friends. I vent to my divorced women friends. I wouldn't put anyone in the middle.
I really bit my tongue last week when I had to meet X at the counselor. I listened to all of his BS and demeaning comments about the oldest, and how he didn't get enough time with them.
And heard him say he couldn't possibly take them to the counselor. Eventually, other people get it. I don't need to say a word. I even checked my non-verbal communication.

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We no longer have common friend's either, and to be quite honest, my W's friend's are not my friend's.

I did get to the point were I got tired of listening to my W go on and on about some of the people she work's with about how they treat their children wrong and who she doesn't like and who doesn't like her.

So I did a little investigating, I went out to her work and watched from across the steet, and I watched her comeout at lunch with one of the gal's she does not talk kindly about, they sure looked chummy to me,
I thought for sure my W would see me, our truck does not hide well, and I wasn't hiding, I was just sitting there.

After my W was done working she did her normal, came out to the shop and started to speal about her day, I listened, and when she got to the part about this gal and how screwed up she is, I told my W it sure didn't look that way when you left at lunch with her. W went dead silent, and then pissed in her pant's, I thought she was going to go into convulssion's.

Needless to say she has not said anything more about people she work's with, and she may not be working at this time, but she can go back anytime she want's.

The world of abuse is beyound my grasp.

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