Wished, hoped, prayed that it wouldn't come to this, but it has.

H has had affair since June of last year. He's tried to break it off, but just can't do it. Has tried to move out, but just can't do it. Has tried to connect with me, but just can't do it.

I've tried meeting his emotional needs, have changed the way I interact with him, don't hide my feelings anymore, tried to make myself a better person. But sadly, all of that hasn't changed a darn thing.

We're still in the same spot. He is looking for a place to move into right now.

I know this will hurt the kids tremendously. For that, I'm sorry and may regret this decision, but for me it's the only choice I can make at this time.

I'm not enough for him, and he's not enough for me. I was willing to accept him and try to work on our marriage ... to make ourselves better individuals, and make ourselves better partners. But he can't break his feelings for her and I have lost my love for him.

So, now what?

SBAB,

Welcome to D&D. Sorry you need to be here

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> So, now what? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You already have the answer to this question

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> tried to make myself a better person. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You still need to do this for you and your children.

There is no doubt that D is going to be rough on kids but if you and H work together to make it as easy as possible for them, it doesn't have to be as bad as it can be.

WIWH

Stung, I am sorry you are here. I read your post on recovery and did not have time to respond. Alot of us started out on the recovery board and unfortunately, now find ourselves posting here.

You found a good site when you found MB, and on this board you will find help for all the changes to come in your future.

Hope things will be better for you soon <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
Dawn

I've changed a few words from your original post:

"He's tried to break it off, but just won't do it. Has tried to move out, but just won't do it. Has tried to connect with me, but just won't do it."

I don't know your story, Stung, but am sorry for your pain and pray for strength, wisdom, comfort, and guidance for you.

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