Ok, I think it is official… my STXWW is delusional and has some serious issues with reality.

About a week ago I had the kids and my 4 year old was talking to the WW and asked her what he was doing the next day (i.e.: was it a weekend or a school day). I hear this and from across the house I yell to him to tell Mommy that we are going to Mexico, which he did… followed by “What is a Mexico???” and “Where is Mexico?” After about 5 minutes or so of this I walked over to him (still on the phone) and say to him, loud enough so that I know WW could hear it, to tell Mom that I was just kidding and that we were not going to Mexico. To which he did and I didn’t hear anything about it… until this morning that is.

I got a call from my attorney this morning saying that she got a call from my WW’s attorney and just wanted my reaction to it. She warned me that it was so obsured that she just laughed and wondered what I would say about it. Now I didn’t know what she was about to tell me so I got a little nervous for a second, she proceeded to tell me that WW’s attorney called to say that WW is all bent out of shape and panicky because the kids are asking to look at brochures for Mexico. Also she claims that I cleaned out and closed my bank accounts and that she has been calling the surrounding counties because she wanted to find out what county I applied for my passport in. She also wanted to know from her attorney if she could make random calls to see if me and the kids were still there…

I nearly, literally fell out of my chair laughing!!! I told my Attorney the rest of the story and she started laughing and said she was going to make a note of this as it is a good example of how WW lies and blows things WAY out of proportion and the custody evaluator should know this stuff so she can take it into account during the evaluation process.

My attorney pointed out that even WW’s lawyer didn’t even buy WW's story… it is ridiculous to even think that I am about to go on the lamb… I just paid $2,500 for the custody evaluation, I have a house and a career here, all my family is here, I just did some landscaping in the yard… why in the hell would I run now??? Besides, she would have no way of know if I closed my bank accounts, and you don't even need a passport to go to Mexico (at least I don't think you do...)It made my day.
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I think the next time she calls I'm gonna answer the phone "Hola!" then just whisper in her ear that "I don't neeeeed a passport to go to Mexico..." then just let her stew about it. I'm gonna have fun giving her the needle about this for a while. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ June 11, 2004, 04:08 PM: Message edited by: Want My Wife Back??? ]</small>

No, you can’t needle her because if you do, she can make a case you are a flight/kidnapping risk.

However, I do appreciate the temptation.

<small>[ June 11, 2004, 03:38 PM: Message edited by: greengables ]</small>

wow! that is something. But seriously, would you have a pc in Mexico so you can still post on here? Because we need you here, Man. Don't go running away from us.

By the way, she can check and see if your accounts are closed if she knew what she was doing. It's amazing what you can do with a pc and the internet. It really seems like you have a great chance of getting custody.

Well, of course I would stay with MB...more because i need you all, and i have no life, and at times NO interest in work... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

And I don't really think she could check on my accounts. We don't have any joint account and the bank I'm with now is a small community bank that doesn't even have a web site yet...although they promise to have on-line banking capabilities by year end... they promise!

The thing that doesn't come across in a post is that I was totally joking... laughing when I yelled that to the kid... and when I told him to tell her I was kidding. She went completely off the deep end... I can't believe it.

Be sure and use your best Pancho Villa accent with that "hola". A trip to Mexico sounds pretty good, ice cold cerveza and warm senoritas. One way ticket please.

That's hilarious.

I had similar sitch with x last year. Last fall in fact. He took son and OW/OW child which was against decree and provison of "no overnight visitors of opposite sex thing"...to Atlantis in the Bahamas.

Last month I went to the GA coast for my state med convention of which I am the president of. I had been given a nice suite for my son and I courtesy of the society for my hard work. It is in same state I am residing in btw...My x hears that I'm going to "St. Simon's Island" and freaks out saying "I am breaking divorce decree taking son out of state and out of the country" not to take in the facts that St. Simon's is indeed in GA, and that he has taken son out of country twice.

I say add to your new vocabulary "arriba arriba undele undele" (a la Speedy Gonzales). I was born in Puerto Rico btw and although I don't speak fluent spanish, my dad did and I have alot of gems from him you can add...One of my favorites is "el perro es muy feo y loco". Translation: the dog is really ugly and crazy. Or "perro muy mal". Translation: "very bad dog". I say pepper in a few spanish phrases and you'll be painted for sure as an expatriat in your WS' eyes.

If she asks "what time do I pick up the kids for my visitation?" I'd respond by saying...Well being that it's 3 pm in Rome and still morning here in the US according to my new international time zone watch, you can get them at five pm tomorrow. I say mess with her head. I'd also learn a few phrases in Japanese and maybe in Russian for a few kicks. How about a well placed German phrase for emphasis? She'll be freaking out and not convincing anybody that you're some bizarre flight risk. Imagine a hysterical Wayward telling a divorce court "well he used a few words in spanish and my kids said he was going to go to Mexico but then he started saying stuff in Japanese and German and I swear he's leaving the country. If you got the police to search his house, you might even find a Berlitz Portugese language course on tape there." She'd be certifiable wacko at that point.

I always like a laugh or two.

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 09:09 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

I agree. Don't involve the kids, even on the level of joking. Your WW sounds unbalanced. don't risk it.

Hi Wantmywifeback.

You don't know me, and this isn't a board on which I usually post... Somehow yours caught my eye on a lonely Saturday night when husband isn't speaking much to me.

Anyway, I was glad to see the last two posts about the children.

I don't know you, your whole situation, or your wife. But I do know something of being a parent (as do you, to be sure). Once, in an argument, my husband was trying to intimidate me. He was failing.

He decided to pick up our little daughter and say "fine, we'll just go somewhere then."

I caved. Immediately. Completely. He could have asked for anything he wanted. In that moment, (although of course I know he wouldn't actually have taken her anywhere other than the store or something), I believed he could take her from me and that terrified me.

I'm sure your wife's reaction was absurd and based on completely wrong information (maybe she checked your old joint accounts or something and made 2+2=8, who knows?) And I'm also sure you have plenty of reason to resent a history of such exaggerations with your wife.

I guess that I just wanted to be a little voice saying that even the most RATIONAL people can have irrational fears when it comes to their children. How much more for someone who is generally a little unbalanced.

Maybe your children WERE asking about Mexico, and she continued to do the math wrong.

I'm sure she's a loon. Just be careful about tormenting her over the kids... There is no wound that goes deeper. And I'm sure sharing custody is hard enough. Maybe she's not dealing with the children part as well as she seems.

Just a few thoughts from someone who's NOT divorced, and so maybe doesn't know what she's talking about anyway.

<small>[ June 12, 2004, 10:56 PM: Message edited by: Telly ]</small>

Hello all, hope everyone had a nice weekend. Ok, let me be perfectly clear on something here… I was not intending to put the kids in the middle of ANYTHING. I was joking and didn’t intend for it to go anywhere and fully didn’t expect her to even take it seriously. Once again… she completely threw me for a loop. All I did was (in a laughing voice) yell out “Tell Mom we’re going to Mexico…” Hell, I didn’t even think he would say that… I mostly just thought she would overhear me saying it. And I did correct the situation within a few minutes. She never mentioned a word to me about it and I didn’t hear anything about it until Friday morning from my attorney. Also, I haven’t been, nor do I intend to, torment her about the kids. I’m not going to sprinkle in any foreign phrases, I didn’t get the kids sombreros, and I don’t intend on asking her what time it is in Rome… or whatever. I did though answer the phone “Hola…” on one occasion, to which she promptly hung up.

I just want this to be clear… I didn’t put the kids in the middle of this. I don’t use them to pass messages back and forth. Also, she and I never had a joint account… so how she thought she could make any determination as to whether I closed any accounts is beyond me. All I was trying to convey here is that she has some MAJOR issues telling the truth and with reality as well as some pretty major control issues. I thought this story was a pretty clear example of this.

On a side note, I think she may be moving… again. Making 4 different residences in the last 9 ½ months. I don’t know for sure but that is the vibe I got. She wouldn’t let me talk to the kids all weekend… she is ordered to let me talk to them between 6:00 and 8:30 per the mediation agreement, but half the time she doesn’t answer her phone. Anyway, last night I got a little p*ssed and just kept calling until she got mad and answered. She told me they were with her parents (have been all weekend). When I asked why she said it was because she was unloading (?) a bunch of stuff… then she hung up. I know she spent the night at the @ssholes house last night as he pulled his truck out of the garage and parked it in the driveway… something that only happens when the two of them go out of town… I just can’t figure out if she is moving, then if she is… is she moving back to her parents house or in with the @sshole??? Not that I’m emotionally vested in it, but the curiosity is killing me.

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 09:10 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

Remarks about taking a divorced mother's children out of the country, no matter how silly they are intended, are not funny.

That your wife blew it out of proportion is on her. But I don't think telling her your taking her kids to Mexico (given your apparent separation/divorce) is funny.

Sad as it may be, your current estranged status means some topics are no longer a joking matter.

Ummmmm....no, it was pretty funny. I was there, it was funny.


Trust me on this one.

Yeah, I think people have the tendency to overreact. What is not funny is their mother leaving their father for another man and having the children go through that. Once that happens, it kind of overshadows everything else.

You're okay, WMWB.

THANK YOU D2IA! ! ! ! <sheeeshhh!!!!>


Maybe I was just referring to a vacation for me and the kids???? Hmmmm, anyone think of that???? Nope, just like my nutty WW you all assumed I was talking about running from the situation and was trying to kidnap my kids and keep them from their mother. All I said was "Tell mom we are going to Mexico..." Maybe I was just referring to taking them away for a couple of days to get away from all this crap going on for the last 10 months... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Geez, if any of you actually knew me in real life…. Knew my sense of humor… like my WIFE is supposed to… you would really see how ridiculous this was for her to make this leap…
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<small>[ June 16, 2004, 09:56 AM: Message edited by: Want My Wife Back??? ]</small>

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 09:11 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

She's your ex-wife now, right? Or almost? I don't know your story, but since you're on the divorce board, I'm making the assumption. So if she's your ex-wife, then I have to say you have no reason to assume that she will get your sense of humor. I'll take your word that the joke was funny. Whatever. But you don't seem to want to concede that not everyone laughs at the same jokes. For you, it was a freaking riot. For her, who heard it second hand, over the phone, it was alarming. Maybe she has a rotten sense of humor. Whatever. It really doesn't matter why she didn't think it was funny. If you simply accept that she's not going to think your jokes about going to Mexico are funny, and stop trying to get her to respond according to your expectations, you'll probably have a more peaceful divorce.