It's been a long time since I've posted on MB. I never thought I'd have to come back again. It hurts to do it now, but I need to talk, vent, get some advice.
Anyways, I just found out yesterday that my H is cheating on me again. He is in the military (15yrs). Married 12 yrs, 13 in Nov. 1D-12yrs old. My H is a multiple cheater X's 10. This is OW#35. He just left for Iraq 2 days ago. The OW is driving his car!!! I confronted her yesterday. Turns out he supposedly gave her special POA for the car and he supposedly put her on his insurance a month ago. Lord Jesus, it took all I had in me not to jump over that counter and choke the life out of her.
I know it is him. So, I calmly just let her know how I felt about it and left.
I have had it. I am embarrassed, humiliated, and dumped on. I knew he was doing something and I know me. Once I get that instinct, it always turns out to be right. Thing is, I can't divorce him while he's there, so he tells me.
We live in Kansas now. He asked me to move here with him to give things another go after being separated for 18 months. Stupid me did it. Thing is, I knew he would never change. I think he is a sexual sociopath. I honestly believe he has a sex addiction.
So, here I am. I am currently going to school. I have maybe 1 more yr to go to get my Bachelor's. Then I'm going for my Master's (another 18-24 mos). For our entire marriage, I've been depending on him, his career, his income. I've worked here and there, but I just never started a career for myself. So, that's what I've been doing for the last 18 months.
I am slammed. I feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. I feel blind sided and I knew what could happen if I came back to him. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> So, it's over.
I am wondering if there are any military spouses or ex-military spouses out there who can give me advice on benefits, divorce procedures, etc... I have gotten to the point where I am going to take what I deserve after putting up with his crap for all these years. I'm not perfect, but Godlee <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
I hate this. I haven't talked to him since day before yesterday. I don't know what to say. Should I tell him I know or just keep quiet about it and just collect more proof? HE HAS THE AUDACITY TO LET THE WENCH DRIVE HIS CAR!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Her explanation is that he offered it to her so she accepted. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I told her to put herself in my shoes-how would she feel? I told her it's disrespectful and it's wrong. Unbelievable...
HELP!!!
<small>[ June 18, 2004, 04:03 PM: Message edited by: INTHECLOUDS320 ]</small>
