I have a problem and I hope someone, anyone can help. For quite some time now, I've been having dreams that my wife is cheating on me. Sometimes I catch her in the act. Other times I just feel emotionally rejected. <p>Now I know this is not Ms. Cleo's psychic hotline. But I was just wondering if anyone has had similar experiences and can share some insight. <p>When I wake up, I'm tremendously sad. I know it's just a dream, but it seems so real. My wife and I have a great relationship. We have two terrific children. We communicate well. We click in bed. She is everything I always dreamed of in a wife and mother. <p>What possible reason could there be for having these terrible dreams? Every couple of nights. Different every time. No specific OM. Never a friend or family member. I wake up shaking and she comforts me. I know she loves me. <p>I'm to the point that I don't want to go to sleep. What is wrong with me? My life is great during the day. But when I close my eyes...

I've dreamed that Mel Gibson was in love with me...doesn't mean it's gonna happen...although it's HIS loss. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
Man, I don't know what dreams mean! If I did, I'd stop *myself* from having dreams that h is cheating on me. Yeah, I have them sometimes, too. Maybe the reason you keep having them is that the first one set off a switch about it in your head. Or maybe you better give up the chili dogs before bed. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Often I dream that I go on a trip and can't get back to my job and get fired. Dreams are just weird, plain and simple.<p>Unless there are other signs that something is going on, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

I won't say that maybe she is, but sometimes your subconscious speaks to you in dreams what you don't realize during the day. What I mean is...I dreamed of sleeping with this man I hated for 4 years. We dealt with each other, but I couldn't understand why I kept having this reoccuring dream. Well...eventually we became close friends and I do admit that now I feel attracted to him, which I never felt before. I don't want to sleep with him though. I am married and my H is his best friend. My husband knows of these dreams and feels comfortable with us being in each others presence. Well...my husband trust me, and I won't think of hurting him. Still I don't know what it means and several years have gone past. But don't let it consume you. Just my 2cents.

Thanks for the words of wisdom. Although I DO believe that our subconscious minds pick up on things that we might otherwise miss, I don't think there is anything going on here. Logistically, our lives are too busy to fit anyone else in. I know that sounds naive. But we talk via cell phones several times a day. And we know what each other is doing at any given time. I know, I know... just when you rest on your laurels, the sky falls down. <p>I think the root cause of these dreams stems from my own insecurities. I often question whether I'm doing enough as a husband and father to make her happy. I've always been very critical of myself. And maybe subconsciously, I don't think I am the man she needs me to be. <p>But I'm gonna work on that though. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thanks again for the help.

I don't believe that dreams have any significance, but if you're always worried about it, then you will probably end up dreaming about it. Good luck and try having sweet dreams. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Well, it's been a week since I posted my problem. And I'm reservedly happy to report that I haven't had any of those dreams since. <p>I appreciate the different points of view. And I'll keep my fingers crossed that the streak continues.<p>Thanx for being there. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Magnum,<p>I echo both points of view above.<p>Could be a subconscious "inkling"/suspicion of an A working its way to your conscious mind. I was totally clueless during my H's affair, yet I developed this overwhelming DREAD about losing him. I even went so far as to say to him at one point, "Please promise me that I will never lose you to anything other than death." (Oh my, if I had only listened a bit closer to my own words! The real concern was right there coming out of my own mouth, except it was so cloaked that I remained clueless.)<p>From what you have described of your relationship, though, it sounds to me like the dreams were probably nothing more than your own fear of losing someone you love.<p>Have you mentioned the dreams to her? Might be a good way to open up discussion regarding anything she feels would enhance the marriage. You said you question whether you are doing enough & are the man she needs you to be. Why not see what she has to say about both?<p>Good Luck & Happy Dreams to come.<p>~bliss~