ok...here's a woman who's talking and giving an opinin here for all it's worth.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> but many of the points I feel are things that you should be able to talk through </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe she has been talking but feels you haven't been listening or that you haven't heard her side. I heard a quote lately....God gives you ONE mouth and TWO ears.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">inability to clearly and openly communicate, or ignoring and/or denial of issues, even when they have been shared or communicated repeatedly, </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe YOU think it has been shared or communicated repeatedly, but the simple fact that she's bringing these points up AGAIN means she feels she hasn't been heard or understood.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She talks of the lack of compatibility in key areas </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Like what? If she has little kids underfoot and you're raring to go when lights go out, you are darn rights there is compatibility in "key" areas. Maybe it's just timing. Maybe it's something else (since you don't indicate what the compatibility problems are)
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm not sure if it was just out of frustation she even said that she didn't think our marriage was "ever about us". </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Did you ever ask here what was your marriage about? I think you might have a lot of answers to those questions.
Marriage is all about hearing the other person and having an open mind to different views and opinions. Your name "Controlling" makes it sound like it's your way or the highway. It would be very difficult to live with a controlling person.
just my $.02