Alan,
Yes, people DO reconcile after divorce. I devoutly believe that all things are indeed possible with God.
I would like to suggest that you go and visit two wonderful sites: Restore Ministries and Rejoice Ministries.
http://www.restorem.org/cgi-bin/index.cgi?page=indexThis is a marriage restoration ministry devoted to helping people learn how to restore their marriages.
Despite what the world at large says -- ONE person CAN work to restore the marriage.
Erin Thiele's ministry is bible and scriptural based. And, she is living proof it works. Her husband Dan was in adultery and divorced her. BUT Erin trusted that God could and would restore their marriage and He did.
This is off their site:
There is Hope for the Hopeless Marriage
“What does a woman do when her husband announces "I'm leaving you" "I never loved you" "I have found someone else!"? Many fall apart and too many seek revenge. Others find someone new "just to show him!" Why are so many men walking away from their wives and families?
When a man decides that it is time to call it quits, what can a wife do? What if she's not interested in financial support, possessions, or property? What if the only thing that wife wants is for her marriage and family to stay intact? What is she to do? Erin Thiele, founder of Restore Ministries, found herself in this very situation back in 1989.
Erin's husband, Dan, had left her for another woman. In her desperation she searched for help. All the "experts" and numerous pastors from many denominations tried to convince her that her marriage was hopeless - then she found the Might Counselor and His Word. She saw clearly that God said that "Nothing was impossible with Him" not her marriage and not Dan's desire to leave her.
Through her intense study in God's Word, the Bible, she found hundreds of promises that increased her faith in the Lord to restore her marriage. At this point she told Him, "If you do this for me [restore my marriage] then I will spend my life telling the world that nothing, NOT ONE THING, is impossible with You."
God was faithful and restored Erin's marriage to Dan after a two-year journey that took her through the "valley of the shadow of death" Dan's divorcing her. As Erin says, "God means for us to go through the 'valley' not live in it!"
Erin's testimony, and the testimonies of all the restored marriages posted on this website or printed in their testimony book By the Word of Their Testimony, proves that God is more than able to restore any marriage, even yours!”
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Marriage restoration is not for the faint-hearted. And, you cannot be double-minded about the journey. It means seriously committing yourself and your lifestyle to this. You cannot be dating other women. It is a firm stand and trust in God that He can and He will restore your marriage.
She has many many fabulous resources available that teach you God’s principles for marriage restoration. But the way is narrow. It really is not something most people are willing to follow.
But if you’re interested in pursuing this go peruse the site and see if God is leading you to this.
Another excellent marriage restoration site is Rejoice Ministries. It is led by the Steinkamps. Bob was in adultery and divorced Charlyne and she also chose to stand firm for her marriage. And, she and Bob are also remarried.
http://www.rejoiceministries.org/This is off their site:
A Standers Affirmation
“I AM STANDING FOR THE HEALING OF MY MARRIAGE!... I will not give up, give in, give out or give over 'til that healing takes place. I made a vow, I said the words, I gave the pledge, I gave a ring, I took a ring, I gave myself, I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words... in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad...so I am standing NOW, and will not sit down, let down, slow down, calm down, fall down, look down or be down 'til the breakdown is torn down!
I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances, or listen to prophets of doom, or buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular, convenient, easy, quick, thrifty, or advantageous... nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God's real thing, nor will I seek to lower God's standard, twist God's will, rewrite God's word, violate God's covenant, or accept what God hates, namely divorce!
In a world of filth, I will stay pure; surrounded by lies I will speak the truth; where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God: where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse; and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God's faithfulness.
I am a STANDER, and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit.. I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome.
I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse, nor the urging of my friends, nor the advice of my loved ones, nor economic hardship, nor the prompting of the devil to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up 'til my marriage is healed.”