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My wife filled for divorce she has a boy friend
when should I start dating
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My two cents....not until your divorce is final.
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Are you in a hurry to date?
That kind of question is the same as, “I just bought a car. When should I start replacing everything?â€
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Don't follow her bad example. Even if the two of you were not married, it is still a bad idea jumping from one relationship to another without having some time inbetween to emotionally heal and learn what cause the disintegration of the relationship so that it won't happen again in the next one.
As far as your case is concerned, are you going to be totally honest and upfront with the woman you want to date that you are still married? or are you going to lie to her?. If you do decide tell her that you are still married, and she agrees to go out with you, what kind of woman dates a married man? I beleive answering these rhetorical questions is something that is in your best interests.
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Definately wait at least until your divorce is final. You've just begun and there is a long road ahead. I unfortunately started dating about a month after my divorce was final. A woman asked me out and I thought why not. Problem was I was overwhelmed by feelings I hadn't had in a long time and got wrapped up in it all. All it really did was delay the healing I had to go through. I finally ended it and am now going through the process of gettingover the divorce. I think you will find you need the time alone for a while. You won't be doing anyone any good by putting yourself in another relationship right away.
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While I do suggest that you not get into another relationship for awhile (out of consideration both for yourself and for the women you date), there is nothing wrong with going on casual dates as soon as you feel ready. One of the components of your recovery is rebuilding your self-esteem and your faith in yourself. Doing things that demonstrate to yourself that you're attractive to members of the opposite sex can help with that. Besides which, it's also good to get out and meet people, at least to take your mind off things.
If you're asked about your status, be honest. If the woman in question is concerned about your status, she'll let you know. Don't take it personally if she does... everybody has the right to safeguard their own feelings.
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Go ahead and date if you have the urge. Just because you are dating, doesn't mean that you have to jump into a relationship. See different people, have drinks, go out dancing, see what's out there. Just have fun with other people and enjoy life on that level.
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