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Hi everyone
I've have been on the General Questions board. I think its here i belong.
My WH doesnt want a divorce, but obviously our separation is a permanent one.
My signature line tells my story.
I will take the next few days here reading your posts, and hope to get some insight on this pitfal of my life.
Thanks
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First, I'm so sorry you find yourself on the D/D board on Thanksgiving. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Not a good way to spend this holiday. I hope you are able to be with supportive family/friends today.
So why doesn't he want a divorce? Because he wants to make sure he still has you waiting in the wings, in case his thing with OW doesn't work out?
Just asking, because I think that's what my ex wanted. He was very upset when I filed, yet he was living with HER!
LL
<small>[ November 25, 2004, 11:46 AM: Message edited by: lordslady ]</small>
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hi Lordslady
I dont know why he didnt push for divorce. Maybe financial reasons. Divorce can be financially messy, I know he wants to avoid that. He wants things to go smoothly. He has given me my child support and the house is all mine. He is paying monthly the line of credit we owe.
He did say he doesnt want to marry her or anyone else for that matter.
As for me waiting in the wings, I only wish that were true. When he left he clearly stated he wasnt returning whether it worked out with OW or not. Said he hurt me twice and didnt want to hurt me anymore.
Happy Thanksgiving, Lordslady, Im in Canada , we had our Thanksgiving last month, so today wont be difficult for me. I hope you are doing OK.
Thanks for replying to me
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Hi A/C, My condolences for your situation. Sounds like he is just cake eating. At your expense, of course <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> . I wanted to ask you.....do you feel like you are moving toward divorce? I know that he is leaving you with little hope or option of him returning....or at best, if he does, you will have to battle feelings of being "the back-up plan." But where do you feel you are along this road? Just curious. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> Wishing you strength through all this.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by L.I.T:
<strong> I wanted to ask you.....do you feel like you are moving toward divorce? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">L.I.T. is right - it's time to think about how you feel. When YOU are ready for the D, you should move that direction whether WH is or not. It's NOT about him, it's about you now.
Take care!
(((((hugs))))))
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